Boo to mean girls!

A mean girl is picking on Alicia. Oh, I do not like that one bit! She needs your best advice.


Dear PLS,
There is a mean girl who makes fun of how I look what should I do?
Alicia, 10

It's normal to feel sad and angry if someone is being mean to you. But it's even more important - and useful - to be smart about the situation. 

Step 1 is to tell your parent and tell the teacher or other school staff.

Step 2 is to think about where and when this girl takes the opportunity to tell you mean things. Is it during class, at recess, on the bus? With a parent's help, think of ways you could avoid her or make it more difficult for her to speak to you. For instance, a teacher could move her seat if she sits near you in class. Having a buddy with you on the bus and at recess can make it more difficult for the mean girl to do her mean thing.

Step 3 is to work out in your own head how you will deal with her mean words. You might just say to yourself - or to her - that she's wrong and walk away. It's even better if a group of classmates will tell her - Don't talk that way to our friend.

Step 4 is to not give up until this mean behavior stops. Keep your parents informed, tell the teacher again or go to the principal if it does not stop. 

What else, Pink Locker girls? How did you handle it when someone said something mean to you about your appearance?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous judogirl said...

oh my gosh i'm so sorry. i was bullied i grade 5 by this two girls and boys.but what i would say is to keep your head up and tell anyone that you can trust and if your to scared to do it your self then ask friend if they come with you to tell the personne or they can tell for you but you have to be their. and don't br afird to say stop it.

January 5, 2013 at 12:03 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

This use to happen to me at lunch. I sat away from them and my friends stood up for me.=)

January 5, 2013 at 12:12 PM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

Im so srry I had a similar problem last year. Maybe when she walks up to u u could say"stop right now b4 u say 1 more mean thing about me. U always make fun of how I look and I'm sick of it. Nobodies perfect. Not even supermodels, especially not me OR u. So just stop and dont ever talk to me like that again." hope this helps if not I hope they stop anyway.

January 5, 2013 at 1:58 PM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

That may be a bit harsh but hey they don't call me sassy Cassie for nothing ;)

January 5, 2013 at 3:45 PM  
Anonymous Loving Peaches said...

So sorry about your problem.:( Tell a parent,and next time tell her it hurts.Also ask her how she would feel being vocal bullied.

January 5, 2013 at 7:49 PM  
Anonymous Loving Peaches said...

Can i please have have a logo?!?!?!

January 5, 2013 at 7:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So there is this really emotionally-uneasy boy at my school who gets picked on left and right. He sometimes comes to my lunch table so he avoids it. I try to stand up for him and say something to the bullies. They don't listen. One of my friend's told a teacher but it didn't stop. What should I do?

January 5, 2013 at 8:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had a problem in grade 5 when this girl made fun of what I wore. It was all hand-me-downs. Luckily my teacher noticed and we talked about it. The principal talked with the girl and I so the problem was solved. We are really good friends now!

January 5, 2013 at 8:30 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Dear Alicia,
First of all, don't EVER let her think she's making you upset. Don't show ANY emotion when she talks to you that way. She's just trying to draw some emotion out of you.
That said, DO tell her to knock it off. Just say calmly in a no-nonsense voice, "I don't appreciate you talking to me that way, and if you don't stop I will inform an adult", or something similar to that. That's what I would do. I haven't actually been bullied before, but there was a girl who didn't like me for whatever reason, and she would just slight me in little ways..just annoying little things, and I took it for a long time until finally I just subtly told her 'stop' when she did something that annoyed me--with zero emotion. Come to think of it, she's never bothered me again--in fact, she pretends to be my friend, which is almost as annoying :/ lol.. Hope I helped!!!
Sincerely,
confuzzled

January 5, 2013 at 10:17 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Try to avoidher as much as possible even though it might be hard. If she then constantly picks on u, then tell an adult or teacher.

January 5, 2013 at 11:48 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Lol! Sassy Cassie

January 5, 2013 at 11:53 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

@Alicia
Just ignore them. I learned that when you ignore bullies and act like what they say doesn't hurt you, even if it does, they will stop because they see you don't care!
Jesus Loves You! That's All That Matters!

January 5, 2013 at 11:55 PM  
Anonymous MusicIsMyWorld said...

Sometimes, girls are going to be mean,YOU are going to politely ask Can you stop? No one is perfect. And tell a teacher hope this helps,and everyone including you,Alicia,is beautiful! :)

January 6, 2013 at 12:48 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Thats just mean! You cant change how you look, so that isnt very nice at all! I have never been really bullied, as the bullies know that I dont care what they say haha! Smile and tand up for yourself and your friends!

January 6, 2013 at 6:43 AM  
Anonymous Natie said...

I used to (and still do) get bullied. I just ignore them. In actual fact i did a post on my blog about bullies (hmmmmm must check that) and what I said was of you ignore them then they think that they aren't getting to you. Or if you aren't good at keeping your head then maybe come up with a few come backs. So say if they said that your ugly you could say "Really, this is coming from you so you can hardly talk. Hope I helped!
Natie

January 6, 2013 at 7:44 AM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

Lol that last part is funny. Also what is the name of yor blog????

January 6, 2013 at 9:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ Pinkadink
Love your last sentence!!!

January 6, 2013 at 3:39 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Yeah Natie, I, along with the rest of us here I'm sure, would love to read your blog!! :)

January 6, 2013 at 5:05 PM  
Anonymous PurpleRose said...

@Alicia
That's is not nice! I don't like that mean girl! First of all, tell a teacher, parent, or trusted adult about it. They will help! Also, don't listen to that girl. She's a mean bully that you shouldn't associate with. When she says something mean, try to do one of the following things:
-walk away
-tell an adult
-laugh with them
Do not get physical, it will make matters worse! And one more thing, don't listen to her. You are a beautiful in your own unique way. Do not ever forget that! :)
Hope this helped! Good luck!

January 6, 2013 at 5:38 PM  
Anonymous iNK said...

Yeah, I'd love to check it out!

January 6, 2013 at 5:55 PM  
Anonymous watermelonpuppy said...

Kill her with kindness. Act like everything she says is a complement. Good luck Alicia! I hope things work out with this girl.
watermelonpuppy

January 6, 2013 at 6:48 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Hi girls!! I had an idea for a game--I've seen it on other sites and forums :) It's called "Have you ever?" Basically, you just post a question like: Have you ever...been to St Louis? And the next poster answers yes or no and posts a new question. I thought it could be a fun way to get to know each other a bit and mess around :D I'll start!

Have you ever read a book in one day? (I have!)

January 6, 2013 at 9:45 PM  
Anonymous Bella said...

I get teased sometimes because I am the only girl in my grade that hasn't started wearing a bra, so my chest looks pointy. I just try to ignore it but sometimes I really feel like crying!

January 6, 2013 at 10:19 PM  
Anonymous Royal*atchoo!*Purple said...

I have always been the principal's pet so no one really bullied me but if they did, I would usually tell them straight out to stop. Otherwise, my nasty mean girl claws would come out. That was my self defense mechanism but you should never use harshness to get someone to stop like I did. Since I was part of the popular crowd as young as 6 I was mean when threatened. You should never do that and I learned. Now I usually wouldn't hurt a fly (unless of course it was a jerky fly) *snickers with a sassy smirk on her face* Just please I hope people know, I still hate being corrected.

January 7, 2013 at 12:05 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks for the advice guys I'll try to follow it

January 7, 2013 at 12:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The next time she says something say "and who r u to judge? Your not exactly Miss Universe!" works everytime :)

January 7, 2013 at 3:53 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

*stand

January 7, 2013 at 5:22 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Hi! First of all Im on holiday in a sunny place with a pool nearby, and Im on my period. I still dont like tampons and my bro doesnt know about periods, what excuses do i give not to swim? And also is it just me or does your period get heavier with more cramps on holiday?

January 7, 2013 at 5:50 AM  
Anonymous KutexKat said...

@Alicia
Sorry if I spelled your name wrong. I have people like that all of the time and I hate it. Say something to them like Who made you in charge of me or something to beat them at their own game but not get in trouble. I hope this helps.

January 7, 2013 at 3:47 PM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

@confuzzled...
Yes, I have. Have you ever finished a whole lolipop without biting it?(I haven't)
God bless you guys!!!

January 7, 2013 at 9:32 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Not that I remember. It's actually been a while since I had a lollipop :3

Have you ever put ketchup on your mac&cheese? (best thing ever. seriously. I've been doing it for a long, long time)

January 8, 2013 at 12:32 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Superbunny, yes I have. Have you ever seen a whale in the wild? (I havent) smiles!

January 8, 2013 at 4:04 AM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

Confuzzled.... Yes I have only once though
Superbunny... No it's too tempting! ī‰
HugsandSmiles.... No but that would be really cool!!!!
Have you ever "loved" someone so much it hurt? (I have)

January 8, 2013 at 4:49 PM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

Lol no I always thought it would taste kinda gross but I think I'll try a bit next time I have Mac and cheese

January 8, 2013 at 4:50 PM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

Oh! I got I! Have you ever dipped ur pizza in ur soda?!? I LOVE IT I always dip mine in soda y mom did and now I do it and I'm always trying to get my friends to do it! ī‰

January 8, 2013 at 4:52 PM  
Blogger diana 10 said...

so have u ever read the 1&2 twilight books in3and a half hours? i have.

January 8, 2013 at 6:12 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Totally yes! Ok, have you ever had a crush? (I have!)

January 8, 2013 at 7:25 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

No sadly. Have you ever kissed a boy. (I haven't)

January 8, 2013 at 7:29 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Help needed! This guy dumped me 2 years ago but I'm still crazy over him. He doesn't like me like that way anymore and we have different classes. Should I walk home with him so he gets to know me better or be good friends? Or just forget about him. PS: guy of my dreams PPS: I've tried forgetting but never works PPPS any conversation topics with a guy?

January 8, 2013 at 7:37 PM  
Anonymous a small flower said...

hugsandsmiles
no, i havent :(
have you ever cut a square in all the pages of a book, so it's a secret case? (I havnt, but i want to) :)

January 8, 2013 at 8:20 PM  
Anonymous a small flower said...

my school has an anti-bullying program where you can anonymously write a report about someone being bullied. and put it into a little box in front of our office, OR submit it on the school website, for someone in charge to see. ive been bullied for a while, but im not doing it. i personally dont care what she says to me. when she says "no one likes you" my friend just says "i like her". i know who i am and no one can convince me otherwise.

January 8, 2013 at 8:24 PM  
Blogger diana 10 said...

hey small flower maybe u think only u r being bulied but this person might be bullying someone electronic e. u should still report her so that shre doesnt get deepr into the line of bullying .

January 8, 2013 at 11:42 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Well done!

January 9, 2013 at 10:46 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Dont let it bother you! Layering also makes it seem less pointy.

January 9, 2013 at 10:47 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Confuzzled, of course I love books! Blutiful Blossom, mainly celebrities though! Sassy Cassie,nope,except family obviously, Bluetiful Blossom, yes, on the cheek. And of course my culture greets everyone like that, but im not counting it. Confuzzled, no cause i dont like ketchup lol. Sassy Cassie, i think I did once at a party a long time ago. A small flower, i want to, but i treasure all my books too much. Have you ever walked the wrong way on one of those flat conveyors you get at big airports?

January 9, 2013 at 10:57 AM  
Anonymous Natie said...

In my school you go to the guidance base if you are getting bullied and you sit on a couch and talk to your guidance teacher

January 9, 2013 at 11:06 AM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

I love a guy so much it hurts!!! I'm eating chocolate right now to make me feel better. :)
@Bluetiful Blossom...
I think you should try and be good friends with him. If he doesn't want that kind of relationship anymore, the next best thing would be to be good friends, right?
God bless you guys!!!

January 9, 2013 at 5:55 PM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

Bluetifull Blossom... No. Unless when ur in kindergarten and ur sister persuades u to kiss her friends younger bother.

January 9, 2013 at 7:22 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Thx superbunny! Chocolate is yummy. =)

January 9, 2013 at 7:24 PM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

Wow your rly strong! That's so great!

January 9, 2013 at 7:27 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@hugsandsmiles
No but it feels exhilarating walking slowly but moving fast! Have you ever broke a bone? (nope)

January 9, 2013 at 7:28 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@Sassy Cassie
Yes. :P

January 9, 2013 at 7:30 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@a small flower
I never made one but I bought one and I keep candy in it. =P
Have you ever ran a race? (I've done 5k)

January 9, 2013 at 7:34 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

And he thinks of me as a girl that's obsessive over him and he even said he made a dumb choice being my bf. And he has a gf right now.

January 9, 2013 at 7:36 PM  
Anonymous Kelsi ;) said...

Hi I know how it is too I was bullied alot in grade 5 and 6 by this girl and her new friends and she was my bestie til then! You should stand up for yourself i know it takes lots of guts to do it but you can do it and everyone is beautiful inside and out dont worry about how you look its their loss to be a bully to you instead of a friend! Good luck!

January 9, 2013 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Kelsi ;) said...

Hi superbunny i agree i luv a guy lots too it does hurt especially when he doesnt feel the same way aaah its crazy and no one knows i like him except for my 2 besties! All they do is bug me about it! I;m eating icecream!!!!!

January 9, 2013 at 7:41 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

@Hugsandsmiles Nope! In fact, I haven't been on an airplane since I was about 5 :)

January 9, 2013 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Lol! I generally get sarcastic, which isnt a good trait. :(

January 10, 2013 at 4:05 AM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

@Hugsandsmiles Do you mean when talking to your crush or..? I get really sarcastic when I talk to guys I like. It's kinda stupid really, because afterward I come up with all these great things I could have said :/ lol
@Bluetiful Blossom No I haven't..it would be fun to, though!! Also I love your name :)
Have you ever had a crush on someone your age? (I haven't. I always have crushes on guy like 5+ years older than me LOL)

Think Purple!!
confuzzled

January 10, 2013 at 12:21 PM  
Anonymous watermelonpuppy said...

I've never run a race. Have you ever done something weird in the locker room and then relize that a teacher is in there? I have done it a little, but mostly my friends do it.

January 10, 2013 at 7:08 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@confuzzled
Yes! And it's okay to crush older guys, you might end up marrying one! Have u evr forgotten a friend or relatives birthday? I have =)

January 10, 2013 at 9:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Alicia, just brush it off, like it's not a big deal. you wouldnt want to fight back because then you could get in a huge fight or get in trouble. youll also become a meaner person. with love,

-me-

January 10, 2013 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Bluetiful Blossom, I forgot to put that I have! No I havent broken a bone (unless getting my first wobbly tooth by falling on something counts?) Have you ever worn mismatched socks? (I have)

January 11, 2013 at 1:19 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@diana 10, nope, (i only read the first one and it took me forever)

January 11, 2013 at 1:20 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@diana 10, have you ever had your ears pierced?

January 11, 2013 at 1:20 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Bluetiful Blossom, does the school jog count? 6K 2 years ago, if i still went there it would be 9k now., have you ever forgotten your bffs birthday? (i havent)

January 11, 2013 at 1:22 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Confuzzled, i mean whenever someone is mean, or i feel uncomfortable or nervous, so that crush thing happens to me alot too, and I havent had a real crush on boys my age either lol! Have you ever tripped on a flat surface? (i have, waaaaay too many times)

January 11, 2013 at 1:26 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Watermelonpuppy, no but i almost walked out without my trousers once! Have you ever got seasick/carsick/airsick? I havent

January 11, 2013 at 1:27 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

No, not anyone close to me anyway, I seem to remember b-days also i only saw this comment after asking a very similar question! Oooops! Sorry. Have you ever eaten a whole pizza by yourself? (i have)

January 11, 2013 at 1:30 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

That's okay! No, but the most I've eaten is 4 slices of pepperoni pizza =D Have you ever slept till noon (4:20 for me!)

January 11, 2013 at 6:54 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

I've gotten airsick before :P Have u evr been sick on your b-day? (nope)

January 11, 2013 at 6:57 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Yep, I did a school race (6th place :P)

January 11, 2013 at 7:05 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

I've gotten airsick before :P Have u evr been sick on your b-day? (nope)

January 11, 2013 at 7:06 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

That's okay! No, but the most I've eaten is 4 slices of pepperoni pizza =D Have you ever slept till noon (4:20 for me!)

January 11, 2013 at 7:06 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Bluetiful Blossom, yeah I sleep till noon all the time :3 And Hugsandsmiles, I slip on flat surfaces all the time! lol I'm always walking around with a twisted leg or something because I constantly dance/prance/run/doweirdwalks about. haha! I'm really crazy :D
xoxo
confuzzled

January 12, 2013 at 9:10 AM  
Anonymous watermelonpuppy said...

I've never gotton airsick before because I've never ridden on an airplane!

January 12, 2013 at 12:07 PM  
Anonymous layladolphin said...

@hugsandsmiles-im a really fast reader like my bff and i asked her if she read the twilight books.she told me only the first one because she got bored and i didnt believe her.i still havent finished the book and i started a month ago.its really long.

January 12, 2013 at 2:04 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

I love the Twilight series!

January 12, 2013 at 2:51 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

(not sure why but sorry posted twice)

January 12, 2013 at 2:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Alicia you should tell a teacher,and try to ignore her.

January 13, 2013 at 5:28 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Oh yeah, i havent (had my ears pierced)

January 13, 2013 at 5:51 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Only when im sick or we had a really late flight, as my parents wake me before 11. Have you ever been the only person in the entire grade to get full marks on a test? (i have)

January 13, 2013 at 6:54 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Nope, but i had to bake my own bday cake once! Have you ever burst into song at random times, causing everyone to stare/laugh at you? (i do all the time)

January 13, 2013 at 6:55 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Laladydolphin, IKR!

January 13, 2013 at 6:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

idk really

January 14, 2013 at 9:56 PM  
Anonymous dolphin00 said...

A lot of people at my school laugh at me for not having any boobs. :/ It hurts, but I don't let them know. So I just tell them that they're not any better than I am. I don't know why they pick on me for not having boobs. Maybe it's because I don't have many friends. :(

January 15, 2013 at 5:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with pinkadink! Lol
~figureskater13~

January 15, 2013 at 9:15 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Awww dolphin00 dont worry everyone grows at different paste.

January 17, 2013 at 6:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

all of the girls in the comments give great advised



but don't let anyone bully you , you are a strong indepented women

January 19, 2013 at 11:41 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

Heres my bullying story:
Yes, I am a nerd. Nerdy and proud!! Yes, Im not a stunner. Who needs looks, eh? But, you see, some of my classmates dont agree with me. Never have, probably never will. I got bullied a lot when I was younger, just being called names and stuff like that. This year, people got worse. Days and days of mimicking and teasing and taunting. Honestly, when does the same joke become old? If its at someone elses expence, I think its old before you say it. Guess what I did? I decided I didnt care. Nope, not a bit. If these are the people who I have to call my friends, I think Im going to choose to be a loooooner. Id rather read a great book, and write a poem than go to the mall with a bully. These people are not being nice, so why should I still hang out with them when it doesnt make me feel good? Exactly. I shouldnt. And now, I feel great about my self. I feel powerful, and like completley myself. I wear things that make ME feel pretty, and I act the way I feel good. Thanks for reading this super duper long comment, youre the best!


~Tris (you Divergent fans will understand)

January 20, 2013 at 3:01 PM  
Anonymous giants girl said...

just say "i like my clothes and im wearing them you dont like them your not and why does it bother you anyway"

January 20, 2013 at 4:15 PM  
Anonymous Giants girl said...

thank you so much for posting my coments omg i have been waiting for a year now i am so happy plz keep posting them and i have a problem i did it in the ask place but no posting bot thanks for posting again OMG

January 22, 2013 at 6:01 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

@Giants Girl
LOOOOL!
have you read all the posts about why jemma sometimes doesnt post comments? these are like guidlines (Nothing rude, nothing mean, no Uh's or Um's an stuff like that)
Try posting your problem and I bet you'll get some great advice!

January 23, 2013 at 9:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

try to not pay attention if she keeps on doing it tell an adult

January 24, 2013 at 4:45 PM  
Anonymous Panda said...

Mean girls are hard to deal with. I personally hate them. I think that if someone is mean to you, you should just ignore them. But if this girl really gets to you and you can't get her to stop, you should tell a teacher, parent, or trusted adult.

January 25, 2013 at 4:42 PM  
Anonymous RoyalPurple said...

I love Divergent!!!!!!!! I also understand how everyone feels because I have been bullied a lot this year. Who has lost a tooth on your parent or sibling's birthday? (I lost one on my dad's birthday when I sneezed.)

January 26, 2013 at 11:11 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

RoyalPurple
Divergent high five!
Nope, never! :P
Have you ever lost a shoe on a rollar coaster? (I have!)

January 27, 2013 at 9:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I understand how you feel, Alicia. I used to be picked on for how I looked. But this simple phrase will stop them jeering you: You know, I have feelings. I might not look perfect, but that gives you no right to judge what I look like. Put yourself in my shoes and we'll see how YOU like it. If that doesn't work, tell a parent, guardian or teacher you trust

January 27, 2013 at 5:37 PM  
Anonymous RoyalPurple said...

Remakingabraverme yes! It fell off on the 5th grade senior trip. The guy had to stop the ride at the end and go behind it to get the shoe.

January 27, 2013 at 11:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow! she sounds like a jerk!

January 28, 2013 at 12:53 PM  
Anonymous RoyalPurple said...

@Remakingabraverme I wish we could meet each other. I need your help. My crush (who happens to be my BFF's crush) asked me to tutor him. Now she is jealous and says I have to give him up. I just can't. What do I do?

January 28, 2013 at 10:50 PM  
Anonymous #1 Pink said...

Someone at my school did that too to me so i know how u feel. Try to ignore her and just stay away from her. thats what i did.

January 31, 2013 at 7:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

DAT STUPID LITTLE-(Takes deep breath)Listen,I got bullied for being ginger multiple times.remember;SHE'S JUST A SMELLY ANT WHILE YOUR A RAINBOW LAMA!!!!!!!!

February 3, 2013 at 5:48 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

OMG ROYALPURPLE IM SO SORRY I HAVNT CHECKED THIS POST FOR EVER!
This might be way too late, and Im soooo sorry, realy.
Okay, heres what to do:
1) TUTOR HIM! Dont your Bff rule your world. Tell her to try to be happy for you, even if she likes him too. If she is really, really mad, talk to her about why. Maybe she should ask him out anyway? You dont know he likes you for sure. (sorry!)
2)While youre tutoring him, play truth or dare, or would you rather. This way, you can ask flirty questions, and get to know him.
3) If you get the feeling he's into you, ask him to a movie. You dont need to make it feel too date-y, so your friend doesnt get jealous.

GIRL POWER! I really am sorry it took so long. Good luck buttercup!

February 3, 2013 at 6:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aww, I am sure that is not true. It is whats on the inside that counts! Don't worry and keep your head held high!

February 10, 2013 at 9:30 AM  
Anonymous Supercute Blue said...

It's true that there are some people in the world who think that looks are what makes a person. But they are jerks. There are a few girls like that in my class and they don't talk to me or my friends because we are somewhat 'misfits' and we are kinda unpopular. But that doesn't get us down! We don't care a bit what they say as looks are deceiving.

February 23, 2013 at 2:23 PM  
Anonymous Supercute Blue said...

Here is my EVIL plan as to how to beat the bullies!
1. Ignore them and they'll get bored and move on. If you start reacting they'll keep bullying you. That's what's motivating them.
2. They may go off and bully someone else. But don't be a bystander! This is the next phase in my EVIL plan...
3. If they do start bullying other people, go up to them and stick up for whoever is being bullied.
4. If all of the above steps fail, go tell a teacher.

February 23, 2013 at 2:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

yeah that happens to me at school too.Shes a jerk.

March 14, 2013 at 5:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

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March 22, 2013 at 1:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that is really mean it happens. bullies just want to get the out of you



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March 22, 2013 at 1:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have had bully since I was in kindergarten I still don't like her but all I do is ignore her bullies be mean because they love seeing people reaction if you ignore them they will stop. If they keep being mean tell an adult you may not want to but it's better than people being mean.

March 23, 2013 at 8:02 PM  
Anonymous pink girl said...

you should just keep calm and tell her that you dislike the fact that she is bullying you and just dont be mean to her, otherwise it would end up in a fight and things wouldnt work out

April 1, 2013 at 5:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

keep your head up high and dont let her get to you (; often times bullies were once bullied themselves. so in order to let it out, they choose to pick on someone else. other times they are jealous of something their "victim" is or has.just remember that and be kind to her even though it doesnt quite seem like the perfect idea at the time. im sure you are absolutely beautiful and everyone around can see that <3

April 4, 2013 at 12:51 AM  
Anonymous star555 said...

i get bullied too cos first i have spots second im a bit fat third at pe all the girls see that i wear a bra

April 7, 2013 at 1:19 PM  
Anonymous star555 said...

im seriosly bullied

April 8, 2013 at 6:00 AM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

I believe that bullying is sometimes misinterpreted. I may be wrong but here is a theory of mine. Many a time, we as people feel compelled to say things. Many a time, those 'things' can have several meanings. Tone of voices has a big affect on people getting offended. Here is a true example of something two of my friends did.
Sierra got picked for the singing part (5 other people did too). Alexis didn't. Alexis was very upset.
Sierra says " Well, maybe singing isn't your thing." STOP! That's where the confusion and feuding starts. Sierra said what she said nicely and kindly. BUT, Alexis, was too upset to really listen and though Sierra was being mean. See the problem?

April 13, 2013 at 1:28 PM  
Anonymous darkangel said...

there's this girl in my class who when ever i like a boy and he likes me to, she just ruins it!!! the crawls around on the floor like a dog and jumps around like shes high on shuger!! im just sick of it!!! wat should i do???

April 21, 2013 at 5:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This girl that I do not like is really bossy , what do I do?

April 26, 2013 at 8:41 PM  
Anonymous bluesun said...

omg im so so so sorry. I also have a mean girl in my class.

April 27, 2013 at 1:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if she goes up to and starts making fun of u!! tell her to get out off ur face cause u dont want to smell that stank breath of hers and walk away!

May 4, 2013 at 2:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Never change your look just if somebody doesn't like it.(always love yourself) Tell the person that's making fun of your look " I love myself but you don't have to so please stop making fun of my look."

May 23, 2013 at 4:32 PM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

@ star 55
Have you talked to your PE teacher or a parent about how you are getting bullied in PE? And if you are getting bullied in general talk to a best friend and someone you trust. Chances are they can make sure u don't feel bullied or that you do not keep being bullied.

June 1, 2013 at 2:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you are being bullied don't say mean things to the girl(s). But do tell an adult. It might seem scary but do it.

July 8, 2013 at 10:41 PM  
Anonymous Alice said...

There is a girl in my class who im sort of friends with but someone told het crush she liked him then she said i told him and started pushing me around and ignoring me

September 13, 2013 at 3:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Iwas bullied for a few years

February 26, 2014 at 4:48 PM  
Anonymous SW said...

Dont worry I know how it is. I was bullied from year 3 right up to year 6. it wasnt nice. All i did was stand up for myself though they kept on crawling back to me like i was a magnet. What I'm trying to say is dont give up. Sticks and stones may break your bones but dont give up on what you believe in.
Let me know if you need to know more!
SW

March 11, 2014 at 4:07 PM  
Anonymous Advice Gal said...

A lot of people grow up being bullied, and sometimes this causes them to take it out on others. Which leads to you getting bullied.

Step one is to not bully others. It's not big, and it's not clever.

Step two is taking the problem to a trusted adult, like a teacher, or a school nurse, or maybe just your mum or dad.

Step three is talking it through with a close friend. They can give you advice, and you can also ask them if they will tell the bully to stop when you see them.

Step four is to stay away. Don't go looking for the bully, especially when you haven't got a friend there.

Step five is to make your mark. Show the bully that you don't really care by lifting your head up, and walking away. It can be hard, but it might just make the bully stop.

If you try all of these, hopefully you will be bully-free. If the problem continues, go to an adult again, and if it gets serious, call a help service by phone.

Thanks for reading!

Advice Gal

December 20, 2014 at 7:25 PM  
Anonymous Karma257 said...

There's this rlly cool song I found when I was dealing with bullying .It's called Who Do U think U R.

August 10, 2015 at 7:50 AM  

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