Five good things about the "lady doctor"

Hi. I saw this question and I knew we had to answer right away. Anonymous is worried about a possible visit to what she's calling the lady doctor. What's the lady doctor?

Other names for the lady doctor are gynecologist or OB/GYN. These doctors - who don't have to be ladies - are specialists in female health issues, such as periods, breasts, pregnancy, and all the other stuff - like rashes or infections - that can happen to the female reproductive parts. Here's the question from anonymous:

Dear PLS,
Girls!!! I need help! Like really bad!!!!!!! It was itchy down there, and I told my mom, so she gave me medicine, but now it hurts! I keep clean but I don't know why it hurts! It used to smell a bad too, but it doesn't anymore, and I told my mom, she said she might take me to the "lady" doctor, but I'm scared. I've read lots of things and I'm scared of what it could be! Help help help help help help!!,!!!!!

Here are three reasons not to be afraid of going to the gynecologist or even your regular doctor for issues "down there."

1. It's common to go to the gynecologist. Most women go at least once a year for a check up. Women have what's called the female reproductive system and it's important to know that everything is working as it should.
2. Gynecologists understand that exams can be a little awkward - even for grownup women - so they are trained to be very respectful. They give you a sheet to cover up with during the exam and they explain what they're doing so you feel prepared.
3. The exam is usually quite quick.
4, For something like you're describing - itching and pain - it's very likely the doctor will know what it is and be able to give you some medicine. And that means you can start feeling better soon!
5. If you do end up seeing a gynecologist, you will see that it's as normal as any regular doctor visit. Then you won't be worried when you're a little older and need to go on a more regular basis.

To get a better idea of what's going on on the inside, this illustration shows the female reproductive system.

Does anyone have any advice about health problems like this one? Or have you been to the gynecologist? What was it like?

Think pink!


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Anonymous iNK said...

When should you go to your first gynecologist appointment?

¿First Comment?

January 19, 2013 at 9:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thanks for the advised

January 19, 2013 at 11:30 PM  
Anonymous c4rlylou said...

I've never been to a gynecologist but my advice is to stay calm and well just carry on with your life it's nothing to be afraid of!
Wish you all the best!
Think pink!*

January 20, 2013 at 4:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks jemma! This made me feel a lot better!

January 20, 2013 at 9:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

oy, i did not know that i will have to go there for a checkup when im older...

January 20, 2013 at 12:34 PM  
Anonymous I agree with iNK said...

yeah, when is your first gynecologist appointment?

January 20, 2013 at 12:53 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

I get SERIOUS pain down there, and its really, really bad. Its been happening for over a year, so I need to tell my mum, but Im embarassed. A lot embarassed. Any tips for dealing with awkward conversations?

January 20, 2013 at 2:53 PM  
Anonymous qwertyuiopasdfghjklzxcvbnm said...

I heard that they check to see if you have breast cancer or problems with your "period area". Not a fun time...

January 20, 2013 at 8:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That's so awkward if your "lady doctor" is a man!!

January 20, 2013 at 8:48 PM  
Anonymous ssexy dancer said...

omg lady doctor appointments are the worst!

January 20, 2013 at 8:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG thank goodness someone posted this my doctor has to look down there and I hate it so much no I know that SOMEONE understands!

January 20, 2013 at 9:20 PM  
Anonymous A+ said...

I am really worried about my period coming at school,despite the fact that it probably won' t come for a while, a year at the most. What do I do?

January 20, 2013 at 9:33 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

It doesnt matter how far your period is away, its still comforting to know you wont be cought empty handed. I recommend A) talking to your mum about buying some pads to bring to school with you. B) If talking to your mum is too embarassing, you could always ask your sister, aunt or close friend to bring some extras for you :)


January 20, 2013 at 10:02 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

Oh, and to INK, yeah! Does any one know when we should go for our first appointments? :/

January 20, 2013 at 10:03 PM  
Anonymous RoyalPurple said...

My doctor is not a lady doctor but I understand how you feel, literally. I am really itchy down there and since I have known her since I was old enough to go to the pediatrician instead of the doctor for newborns. I feel comforatable speaking to her because, without medical attention it only gets worse.

January 20, 2013 at 11:39 PM  
Anonymous sharkgirl said...


January 21, 2013 at 9:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you! My mom said i will have to go to one, so this made me feel better. Thank you!

January 21, 2013 at 10:47 AM  
Anonymous katelynla said...

I hate it when doctors have to do things where they have to look "Down there"
but they really are respectful. So, don't worry!

January 21, 2013 at 10:59 AM  
Anonymous giants girl said...

its ok to go to the "lady doctor" she/he will help its that or be hurting and ichy down there and someone (mabye your crush) will see you iching and he/she will think eww its ok to go

January 21, 2013 at 12:42 PM  
Anonymous sparklygymnast88 said...

At least you only have to go once a year

January 21, 2013 at 3:34 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@Remakingabraverme, tell your mum when you are alone and can easily get away. Take a really deep breath and smile, then tell her, simply, like mum, I ve been hurting really badly down there for a year and i think i need to see a doctor, but ive been too embarassed to tell you! Wait for her reply or questions, and mak a smooth getaway. Above all smile!

January 21, 2013 at 4:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Jenna, umm I think I have bacterial viganosis (idk how to spell it, but it's also called BV) because down there it's itchy and hurts and my butt hurts too

January 21, 2013 at 6:08 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

If you're really embarrassed, write a letter or email her about it. Hope I helped! :D

January 21, 2013 at 6:35 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Don't worry! You're not alone, every women will have to go there eventually. The doctor is there to help you. =)

January 21, 2013 at 6:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i used to hurt and itch down there in second grade, but now it is gone and i feel fine

January 21, 2013 at 7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks :)

January 21, 2013 at 9:02 PM  
Anonymous IWANNACRY!! said...

Please, please, please help!!
I have very very bad pian in my vagina, about once a week or so. I dont have the discharge that is associated with a yeast infection, Im not itchy and I dont think Im swelling. It stabs right inside of me, for hours at a time.
I told my mum Im hurting but shes not taking me seriously!!
Please help! What do I have? Do I need to see a doctor?

January 21, 2013 at 10:55 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

You're welcome :D

January 22, 2013 at 8:31 AM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

IWANNACRY!!, you need to sit your mom down, look her right in the eye, and say something like, "Mom, I'm REALLY hurting down there and I need you to take me to the doctor ASAP." If she still doesn't take you seriously, then get a friend's mom or a close female adult to take you. Worst case scenario, talk to a nurse at your school about it. She might at least be able to direct you to some help. Good luck!

January 22, 2013 at 1:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


Maybe ask a school nurse?

January 22, 2013 at 3:21 PM  
Anonymous sharkgirl said...

Tell her its serious and describe that it feels like someone is stabbing you. If she still doesn't listen could you tell a school nurse the problem or another trusted adult?

January 22, 2013 at 5:16 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

@ iwannacry
I think u should go to the doctor or get some medicine

January 22, 2013 at 5:53 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

tell your mom "IM SERIOUS help me it hurts your my mom your are spost to help" hope this helped say yes if it did

January 22, 2013 at 6:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

so i just started getting this stuff in my underwear that is like an off whitish-really light brown. its like a little strip. it happened everyday since Friday. is it discharge because it doesn't sound like what jemma described it as. is this what discharge starts out like? please help me

January 23, 2013 at 3:12 PM  
Anonymous IWANNACRY!! said...

Thanks guys! Im definitely going to do that, and I really hope she listens. :) Youre the best!

January 23, 2013 at 5:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@anonomous - discharge
yes that is discharge. that happened to me 6 months ago and i still get it now. i was not sure until i did some private research about it.

January 23, 2013 at 9:15 PM  
Anonymous PLS ANYONE HELP ME said...

I am 13 (14 this year) and I have been getting discharge for like a year now. I haven't had my period yet. I started getting sort of slight pains at night in my lower stomach and I am scared to get my period at school. My mum hasn't gotten me any pads yet and I sort of want some now except I don't want to ask her because I have 4 younger brothers and my dad in the house and it will be quite embarrassing if they find out. Do you think I will get my period soon? And do you think I should ask my mum for pads?

January 23, 2013 at 9:20 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

@IWANNACRY!!, Glad we could help girlfriend!!

Anonymous, you might want to ask your mom about that if you haven't had discharge before (it sounds like you haven't). If you have had discharge for a while, then it could be your period is about to come, but you if you're worried you should still check with your mom.

January 23, 2013 at 9:49 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Dear Jemma,
Do you think you could publish a 'Mom Appreciation' post? I think that would be cool, because in my opinion moms are the coolest people on the planet :) They feed us, take care of us, and when we girls start going through 'the awkward stages' (puberty), they're there for us to give us whatever we need--whether it be bras, pads, or just some great advice. My mom is my hero <3
Anyway, that's why I think our moms deserve a post entirely in their honor and for no other reason then THEY'RE AWESOME!!!!

January 24, 2013 at 11:48 AM  
Anonymous PANfan said...


Give your mom an email or a note telling her straight forward what you want. And tip: if you haven't had your period scheduled yet (or haven't had it)don't wear light colored pants. HOPE YOUR LIFE GOES WELL!!!

January 24, 2013 at 4:16 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

I do think you should ask your mum for pads, but I dont know when your period will come. Its always better safe than sorry, and I have some tips for talking to her.
Next time she goes to the grocery store, volunteer to come with her, so your brother and dad wont be there too.
While your shopping, take a deep breathe, (count to three and make yourself do it if your nervous) and just tell your mum exactly what you just told us. That you have discharge for a year, and you think you might be getting your period soon. You know mums, she will probably right away say "Oh, lets go get you some pads!" If not, just suggest it.

Good luck buttercup!

January 24, 2013 at 5:13 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Little help? I'm thinking about walking home from school with my crush/ex so maybe he'll remember what it was like to like me. I don't want it to be stalker-y. Right now he has a gf so maybe forget about it? Maybe some easy conversation topics? When I see him in the hall what do I do? A•duck and hide (like now with staring) B•smile or C•none of the above

January 24, 2013 at 8:42 PM  
Anonymous PurpleRose said...

My firend has a HUGE BOY PROBLEM and I need lots and lots of answers, QUICK!
So, there's a guy in my grade my BFF like-likes. We have a lot of clues that he likes her too, for example, him put his hand on hers, looks at her a lot, etc. But since last week, suddenly he doesn't talk to her anymore! She's really upset that he won't talk to her, and now she's thinking he doesn't like her anymore, but for some reason, I KNOW he does! He has to!
So, PLS, what can my friend do to find out why he doesn't talk to her anymore, or should I take matters into my own hands? If so how?

January 24, 2013 at 9:02 PM  
Anonymous PLS ANYONE HELP ME said...

Thanks guys so much!
I think I am gonna wait till the time is right but if I go on a camp or something I will ask her for some. If I feel I need them, then I will probably just take one of hers :) hehe
Thanks again guys :)

January 24, 2013 at 11:34 PM  
Anonymous PLS ANYONE HELP ME said...

I think my mum already knows I get discharge cos the does the washing.

January 24, 2013 at 11:36 PM  
Anonymous I DON"T READ MINDS said...

HOW DO I KNOW IF MY CRUSH LIKES ME??? I just met him at the park in September and we talked together then. Today I asked him what his name was because I forgot it, and he didn't seem enthusiastic. ADVICE????? THX

January 25, 2013 at 2:45 PM  
Anonymous FigureSk8er4Life said...

Please please do a new post jemma

January 25, 2013 at 2:46 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

help i need a bra how do i tell my mom

January 25, 2013 at 5:52 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

my dad lost my phone now he said if he finds it he gets to keep it help im so mad

January 25, 2013 at 5:53 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

@Giants Girl
Dont worry, he is probably joking!
If he is serious, just look really really hard at first. If you dont find it, reason with him.
"Dad, you lost it. It is your fault, so even if you find it, it is still my phone, and I get to keep it."
Good luck buttercup!

January 25, 2013 at 8:03 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

First off: LOVE YOUR NAME!! If we all could have a super power, I bet most of us would choose mind reading for this very reason!!
Second off: how well do you know him? If you see him often, just ask some get-to-know-you questions and (dont even try "keep your cool", be enthusiastic and YOURSELF!!). Once you get to know him better, if you find that you still like him, ask him to a Valentines day dance or a movie. You dont even have to mention that its a date, he can make his own assumptions.
Good luck buttcup!

January 25, 2013 at 8:07 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

@Giants Girl
Tell your mum straight off. "Mum, I need a bra. Could you measure me?" probably ask on a day that your dad/brothers arent home, so its not embarassing. And you know mums, she will probably gush over how her little girl is growing up and take you out for a bra right away. :)
Good luck buttercup

January 25, 2013 at 8:09 PM  
Anonymous katelyla said...

*Bluetiful Blossom
Your situation is tough. But I'll try to help! I think you should just try and be friendly, but not too friendly, if you know what I mean...
Just smile, and wave a little. Then you two would at least be able to talk once in a while.

January 25, 2013 at 9:56 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@Bluetiful Blossom, B Smile of course! And if he has a girlfriend you should probably forget about him, you can still be friends though.

January 26, 2013 at 10:06 AM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

@Purple Rose
I love how youre helping your friend!!
1) You probably should not take matters into your own hands. A LOT of bad things coul happen.
2)Give her the advice thats giving on this fantasmigorical supremalicious blog. (Read alot of comments:)
3) Hang out with his friends, so that even if he isnt talking to her, he can see how fun and cute she is and remember what it was like a few weeks ago.
4)After they are back on speaking terms, your friend should ask him to a movie, then a Valentines dance or other date-like things to make him realize that she likes him too.
After that, they will fall madly in love for ever and ever and ever.
Good luck buttercup!! ;)

January 26, 2013 at 11:44 AM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

@Bluetiful Blossom

If you guys live close, just walk home naturally, but be in front of him. That way, he has a choice to come up to you, and its not at all stalkery!! If he doesnt, slow down your walking.
If you have a friend that lives near him, walk home with her/him, and be joking and natural (still in front).
In both situations, once he comes up to you or you slow down, dont exactly act suprised to see him but dont be completely fake or act way too cool for school
Be yourself, and happy
Goodluck buttercup!!

January 26, 2013 at 11:49 AM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

Oh, and definitely B!! one hundred and five percent B.
Good luck buttercup!

January 26, 2013 at 11:50 AM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Thx so much katelyla! =)

January 26, 2013 at 12:00 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Hang out more to get more clues if he likes u. Like if he stares at u a lot or holding hands, that out of friend boundary type stuff. If a dance comes up talk about it and maybe he'll get the hint to ask u. And remember his name! Hope I helped =)

January 26, 2013 at 12:06 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

I think it's usually on Sunday so 1 more day!

January 26, 2013 at 12:07 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

Help my health teacher told me to mark on a calender when my period how do I do that

January 26, 2013 at 1:39 PM  
Anonymous Anywho said...

Okay girls!!! I have aserious question... How do I get a quiet guy to talk to me? There is this boy in my basketball team and he is really good but He doesn't really talk....He is cute and nice but he is shy.....I just want him to talk to me like a friend not as anything else.....I know that he like baseball cards and sports but that's it. I run out of things to say.....And it ends up being awkward ......Now I don't see him that often. But I see his parents a lot and I always say how r you or How is it going or Hello....But I talk to parents and they are very nice. BUT I want to be able to talk to him too

January 26, 2013 at 2:13 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...


I am just so sad lately, and stressed all the time. How do I be happy and not stressed all the time

Giants Girl

January 26, 2013 at 3:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Once again on my phone so it's ViolinistAtSoul. Anyway sorry to keep asking questions about the same guy but I'm the advice giver in my group of friends so when I need advice you girls are who I have to ask. So I'm trying to find out if this guy I like likes me. He won't talk to me when his friends are around but we usually get to the last class (at my homeschool co-op) early so we talk since we are the only ones there. Yesterday I was taking to him and I was like "oh great I'm gonna be a loner in the front row again" and then his friend walked in and he turned to his friend and was like "AJ want to sit in the front row?" And he sat down leaving one seat between us. Then one of the kids that he kinda talks to that always sits next to him came in and said "hey can I take that seat?" (Referring to the one inbetween us) and my crush is all like "Sorry school property". Then the other kid goes "here I'll give you my cookie if you let me sit there" and my crush hesitated until his friend said that'd he'd give up his seat for the cookie. But when we were taking a class photo in one class we all had to squish in so I was touching him and he kinda moved away. But in the next class photo we were doing a silly photo and all the guys on the other side of him started attacking each other and he acted like he had gotten pushed and fell into me. He also is always talking about all the sports he does and it seems to me like he's trying to impress me. Also his friend was looking at me all day yesterday with this grin that was like he knew something I don't. I really want him to like me what do you think?? Thanks so much!

January 26, 2013 at 5:55 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme! said...

@Giants Girl
Joke time!
Knock knock!
*Who's there?*
Interupting cow.
*interupting co-*

Heres a little song just for you!
"dont worry, be happy! Cuz when you worry, your face will frown :(. And when you frown, er'ybody gets down!"

Compliment time!
You gorgeous, lovely, smart woman. You are so sophisticated and fun, so pretty and very stylish if may I say so myself. You are the most beautiful woman in the world, and definitely the cleverest. Your the bravest and the strongest as well. YOU PUURDY GIRL!!

And, now, finally, my last cheer-up strategy.
Write your feelings in a journal or diary. Talk it out with someone if you are having problems with something or someone, and always let it out! Crying is good, remember that. We all care about you here, and so many people love you!

Love, all the blog girls!

January 26, 2013 at 7:09 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme! said...

GIRL POWER! (Just thought I'd remind you how awesome we are:)

January 26, 2013 at 7:11 PM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

Couldn't have said it any better!
@Giants Girl...
You must have JOY. Stress cannot remain in the prescence of JOY.(and cupcakes :) )
Hope you feel better! <3
God bless you guys!!!

January 26, 2013 at 9:55 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Looks like he totally loves u! I think it's totally normal for him to not talk to u when his friends are around (guy thing I guess.) He likes u but he probably doesn't want to awkwardly 'hold hands' or sit directly next to u so I guess he's not that ready for the gushy stuff. And for the last hint, where his friend has that 'I know something u don't know look' is the biggest hint that your crush likes u. So my advice for now is to not take it to far and hang out more. Some tips are to dress modestly, smile every time u see him, and have plenty of conversations with him. Hope I helped! ~Bluetiful Blossom =)

January 26, 2013 at 10:52 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Ask him about sports and his classes (fav subject teacher.) Fav food or any pets. Or..... Do the question game! You ask a question and he can choose to answer it and then he has to ask u a question and on and on. When u see his parents u can ask how he is doing. Hope I helped!

January 26, 2013 at 11:01 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Thx for the advice Remakingabraverme :D

January 26, 2013 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Thx Hugsandsmiles! Everyone can rely on u. =)

January 26, 2013 at 11:06 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

~high five~ :P

January 26, 2013 at 11:10 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

~high five~ !
No problem Bluetiful Blossom, thanks superbunny!
(I have just decided Im going to sign off with Girl Power every time)


January 27, 2013 at 9:50 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Don't worry, these appointments are for the best!!!!

January 27, 2013 at 12:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You could wear a pantiliner everyday and if you have signs that It will come u could wear a thin pad and if it does come just go. To the nurse to get a pad/tampon not to worry its normal

January 27, 2013 at 5:05 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl♥ ♥ ♥ said...

My friends I've known for about 6 years, my BFFs foreva suddenly are cussing. Their parents obviously would never let them cuss, because they're like mine, they dont except stuff like that. Well anyways yesterday I went to visit them and we were texting my other BFF, my BFF's friend, and my friends boyfriend, and throughout the whole time they just kept cussing and it really bothered me, now there acting really weird and saying stuff like 'aye bruh' and all I say is stuff like 'hi everyone!' and it bothers me that they are just trying to act 'cool' in their perspective and I want to tell them to please stop acting weird and cussing, at least when they're around me, but I dont know how! I just dont want to recieve a bad influence from them.
(Sorry about the really long post, and about the trailing off the main point of the question.)

Think Amazing:D

January 27, 2013 at 11:18 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl♥ ♥ ♥ said...

LOL by the way, heres the joke I told to my friends.(Not the ones I talked about in the previous comment ( -_-))
knock knock
whos there?
icygirl who
icygirl is awesome!
-_- Not funny.....
Me: Starts laughing reallly super duper hard.

January 27, 2013 at 11:22 PM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

It's SNOWING!!!!!!!YAY!!!!!!!!!!!
God bless you guys!!!

January 28, 2013 at 7:08 AM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Got it, thx =)

January 28, 2013 at 8:27 AM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

@ Icygirl <3 <3 <3
Havnt heard from you in forever! (I was CCmay before)
This is a promblem Im had, actually until yesterday. :)
I know its awkward when they are acting all 'too cool for school', but remember you dont have to be like them. keep talking the way YOU want to talk, and never feel pressured to cuss.
If it is so uncomfortrable, that you need to confront them, dont try to act cool about it (Saying "Watch your mouth!" like a mom and laughing, they will not take you seriously).Be serious and say "You guys, Id really love it if you could stop cussing around me. Its annoying (or uncomfortrable, or dumb, what ever you choose), like trying to de-code messages when every other word is a cuss!"

Remember, GIRL POWER! Good luck buttercup!

January 28, 2013 at 9:52 AM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

Plus, love your joke.
Knock knock
whose there?
remakingabraverme who?
Remakingabraverme is awesome.

January 28, 2013 at 9:53 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Giants Girl, first you get a calendar and you do some sort of mark on the day you get your period. If you like you can mark everyday that you get your period, so that you know how long it is for future reference, and even how light or heavy each day is. To work out how long your cycle is (if its regular) count the first day of one period to your next period, that way you can estimate when the next one will be. Hope I helped, and dont forget to SMILE.

January 28, 2013 at 10:00 AM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Really?! Where I live, we haven't had snow for like 4 years! It's pretty warm now. You sure are lucky =)

January 28, 2013 at 5:59 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Hi guys,
Do any of you have a half-sibling? If so, then please read this and tell me if it's normal.

Okay, so. When I was 10, my dad informed me that I have an older brother. At the time, I was actually kind of upset that no one told me, because I felt (and sometimes still do) that we could have had a really close relationship had we known each other sooner. I'm pretty much over it now, since it was a bit more complicated than that. Anyway, the reason my dad told me about him was that we were going to his college graduation. We attended it and briefly said hi to Chris (my 'half'-brother) and left--we didn't want to make him uncomfortable, since Dad hadn't talked to him in years.
Last year (2012), on my b-day we ran into Chris and his friend at the mall and decided to all have lunch together. Dad and Chris talked for over an hour, and I happily listened. We decided to keep in touch, and Dad texted him, but we didn't see him again until early December (he decided to come visit us), when he stayed with us for the weekend with his girlfriend.
Okay, so here's where I had a question. It's not bad or anything, I was just wondering if it's normal. :) See, even though, technically, I barely know him-- we've only visited him once since his visit (we went to see him just this last weekend)--I feel like I've known him for a long time and I already love him like a full brother, if that makes any sense. He inspires me with his amazing artwork, and he's really nice and funny, and I really look up to him. He's 25, by the way, and I'm 12.
So I guess I'm asking if you think it's possible for siblings to not know each other for several years and then meet each other and immediately have a close bond. :)
Thank you so much if you read all of this! <3

January 28, 2013 at 6:13 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

I totally get u. My friends use to be pretty modest until now were old and we know about the gross things in our life. Every normal thing there is, they think wrong. They also cuss when they feel like it. When I tell them to please stop, they cuss at me like they don't care and like it's not a big deal. I think u need a big serious sit down and tell them honestly how u feel and it hurts u. If they don't take it anything serious, maybe u need new friends or tell an adult (like their parents if it gets to be a big problem.) Hope I helped! =D

January 28, 2013 at 6:15 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

I don't have a half sibling but I sympathize you. Things must be complicated. He's your family so it's usual to have a bond at first sight. Hope I helped! =)

January 28, 2013 at 9:00 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

Thanks 4 all the advice!!!!! @remakingabraverme... lol i no i havent been on for long, and for those who dont know, I used to always strive to be the first commenter and to check this website daily, Im back:D

January 29, 2013 at 12:50 AM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

it is awesome that you have a bond with him its is great and normal have fun

Think pink,
Giants Girl

January 29, 2013 at 12:48 PM  
Anonymous FigureSk8er4Life said...

that is really awesome confuzzled. I am sure that is perfectly normal, siblings have a special bond that they don't have with others. hope you get to see him more often!

January 29, 2013 at 3:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aww.. Not to sound mushy, but that's cute. It's perfectly normal!! I'm sure the reason your dad didn't tell you before was because you were too little to understand! Hope I helped!!

January 29, 2013 at 4:19 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

My situaion is a little bit different (Step brother who I completely love like my real brother, and step sister who I adore) But I still think I can give you some advice.
I met my step siblings last year, and I honestly love them. We tell each other everything, and I feel like Ive known him my whole life.
Heres what you can do (what I did too) to get closer to him.

1) Someday, you should ask him if he wants to go out. To a basketball game, the Art Center (he might enjoy that), or a small town thing like a fair. He can bring his girlfriend, but your parents arent neccisary.
When youre out, at first I admitt, it might be awkward. But, he sounds like hes fun, so dont worry too much. Get to know you questions are the definition of awkward with step/half siblings, so play truth or dare instead or a game similair, like would you rather. You can get to kow people so much better that way than youd think.

2) Once you know things like his favorite drink (would you rather, drink pepsi or cola for the rest of your life) get that for him without him asking, to show that you care and you were listening. He will probably realize this, and he will be more comfortrable treating you like a sister (hugs or fooling around or teasing you) because he knows you want to be his sister. (Which I am just infering, but it sounds like you want a bond)

3) Any time you see him, hang out with him. This just furthers your bond, which will probably last forever.

GIRL POWER! Good luck buttercup.

P.S. Sorry for the loooong response.

January 29, 2013 at 5:26 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

Do you guys want to play that "have you ever" game?
Ill start, have you ever stayed in your PJ's a whole day? (I have!)

January 29, 2013 at 9:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's me again. ViolinistAtSoul. Really wish the name thing on the iPhone would get fixed. Anyway on to the purpose for this comment.
Totally!!!!!! I'm homeschooled so I actually get chances to do that fairly often :)

January 30, 2013 at 12:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should keep calm mybe its your period moment.Telling your mom was the best thing to do first.

January 30, 2013 at 12:39 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Awww thanks guys!! Remakingabraverme, long responses are awesome! After all, I asked a long question, didn't I? Haha! Well, thanks a bunch :) I think I'll wait on asking him to go to an event..because I've only seen him a few times. We'll probably end up going somewhere anyway though (I got one of them feelin's:D) and we'll probably go to something art-related (he's an artist--and get this, we'd never even met before and we have the same favorite artist: Salvador Dali! See? It's like we grew up together or something!! :P). We're actually planning on all going to a Shinedown concert (they're my other brother's favorite band)--Chris, me, my other brother, my parents, and Chris' roommate. It's gonna be so funnnnnn. :3

@Remakingabraverme I have too. Great isn't it? :P
Have you ever skipped breakfast and eaten a huge lunch? I have!

January 30, 2013 at 12:40 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

Thats so great! Good luck buttercup, Im sure youll have a fantismigorical relationship with him.

I have! Best ever, hey?
Have you ever eaten an apple right down to the seeds/very itsey bitsey core? (I never ever have...)

January 31, 2013 at 5:25 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

hi its giants girl i need to pick up my room by saterday how do i do it quick and fun thank think pink and BYE

January 31, 2013 at 6:17 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Thx, that made me smile

February 1, 2013 at 3:34 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Giants Girl, smiling creates a happy hormone (endorphin) which makes you happier, eating chocolate and being organised helps.

February 1, 2013 at 3:37 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Icygirl, lol

February 1, 2013 at 3:39 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Oh! That explains why I thought Ccmay vanished!

February 1, 2013 at 3:40 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Confuzzled, I have three half-siblings, one i saw t a mall on holiday, the other i met twice before he moved to the other side of the world, and the third iv seen only in pictures, and lives on the opposite end of he continent. Two of them only bring my father grief, but the other learnt ANOTHER language and is pretty admirable. Yes I think that you can instantly feel affectionte toward a "new" family member instantly.

February 1, 2013 at 3:45 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Icygirl;), ive missed you, even thouh im not sure i commented back when you were famous very much. Smile!

February 1, 2013 at 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Remakingabraverme, yes i have stayed in my pjs the entire day (but not in ages :() Have you ever been stuck in school on a snow day? (i have)

February 1, 2013 at 3:49 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Confuzzled, yes i have skipped breakfast for an enormous lunch. Have you ever held hands with a guy? (I have)

February 1, 2013 at 3:51 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Remakingabraverme, yes i have eaten an entire apple. Have you ever been to. Sleepover (slumber?) party? I havent

February 1, 2013 at 3:53 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Giants Girl, play music and do it in parts, rewarding yourself after each section is clean.

February 1, 2013 at 3:54 PM  
Anonymous Cute and cuddley said...

@ Giants Girl

Your my hero i hope you get a logo soon. can you right back, i would make my day PPPPPPPPPLLLLLLEEEEEAAAASSSSSSSEEEEEEE

February 1, 2013 at 8:34 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

Dear Cute and Cuddley
I am soo glad you are a fan. Also I am hoping to get a logo soon too. Can you ask a question for me, Im getting bourd. Thanks

Happy Superbowl
The Giants

February 2, 2013 at 10:09 AM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

Yes, super fun! Have you ever swam for more than three hours straight? (my records eight!)
And yes, I have held hands with a guy. But he was all sweaty!!
We dont have snow days here, unfortunately, we just have to walk on the days when cars cant get through the roads, which isnt often because we have plows and things.
hehe, CCmay did vanish for a while. Ccmay... is a different person now (hence the name)
Have you ever been late for your classes? (I think youre homeschooled, but oh well)

February 2, 2013 at 6:30 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Don't worry. A doctor's appointment can't be that bad. Many girls were in your position and probably felt like, "Hey, that wasn't that bad!" When they finished!

February 3, 2013 at 10:01 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Does anyone know what happens at a regular 12-year old's doctors appointment? I am thirteen years old and I have never gone to that yet! I keep on forgetting to sign up!

February 3, 2013 at 10:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

See a doctor, maybe it's a yeast infection?

February 3, 2013 at 3:55 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

@ remakingabraveme

omg u swam for eight hours straight b4!!! wow. i never even swam for an hour straight lol

February 3, 2013 at 4:49 PM  
Anonymous watermelonpuppy said...

@Remakingabraverme -- No, I'm in middle school, but since I'm in 5th grade it's hard.

February 3, 2013 at 6:19 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@Remakingabraverme, yes I am homeschooled now, but when iwent to regular school I was a bit of a nerd, so I cant remember ever being late. Have you ever wanted to learn Sign Language? (I hav and Im working on joining classes) Smiles!

February 4, 2013 at 6:56 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@Remakingabraverme, And Yes, I have swam more than three hours straight, i dont know what my record is, but eight hours is impressive!

February 4, 2013 at 6:58 AM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

thanks, Hugsandsmiles! Its a lot of fun. Im a competiive swimmer so I do that alot.

February 5, 2013 at 8:07 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

Ok trick question, if you know the answer comment saying @Icygirl;) [or without the smiley] then your answer ok.:)
Question: How many F's (doesnt have to be in the beggining of the word) are in the following sentence?

Fighting Fish of Freezing lefts are flying Floatily over and of Frenzico.

February 5, 2013 at 11:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


February 6, 2013 at 7:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If your embarrassed to tell ur mum just find a time when it's just ou and her and quickly tell her or write her a letter :)

February 6, 2013 at 7:23 PM  
Anonymous Hugsand*cough*smiles said...

@icygirl, 9

February 8, 2013 at 12:16 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

@hugsandsmiles AWW U WERE RIGHT!!!!!!!!
Either you've seen this before of your a genius. Most people dont count the of's :)

February 9, 2013 at 1:19 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@Icygirl;) I am smart, but I admit, I have seen a similar thing with fs and ofs before, (when I was 9) you were supposed to guess 3/6 Fs and I got 4 or 5 the first time yay! Smile!

February 11, 2013 at 5:07 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

Hey, when I went to the "lady docter" it was a man, I felt really awkward, so I told him, "Your a great docter, and I'm thankful that your helping me.... could I please get a woman docter?' He said, sure! so don't worry about the docters, they will understand.:)

February 14, 2013 at 3:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


February 14, 2013 at 10:41 AM  
Anonymous supergirl123 said...

I just got discharge pads, and it wasn't awkward with my mom AT ALL. But I do have some questions, at what age do you go to the 'lady doctor',does the sheet cover everything, what happens in an exam,and what is the exam for? Please answer my questions!

February 23, 2013 at 8:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I went to the 'lady doctor' for the first time, nobody told me about the 'sheet thing'. It was really awkward and embarrassing. I was so humiliated that I haven't seen that doctor again! So when the time comes, PUT THE SHEET OVER YOU!!!!

February 27, 2013 at 6:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just went for the very first time and it was THE WORST THING EVER! My so called 'lady' doctor was a man. It was horrible! I literally cried. I feel sick to my stomach.

February 27, 2013 at 4:43 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

aw, lady doctors aren't bad.

March 5, 2013 at 4:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You know, i wish. I had a doctor that was a girl. When he checks me, i feel so uncomfortable.

March 19, 2013 at 5:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My dad isn't that type of doctor but you know most of the time he sees or my mum sees and describes to him what it is i got a rash once and got cream for it for any other girls afraid to ask don't be because your mum loves it if you can speak freely as my mum said to her friend remember if you are a first daughter this isn't only a learning curve for you but for your mum aswell she may never have had a tween daughter before
Think pink
Think smart
Take heart

March 25, 2013 at 3:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I like this guy.when I go to my math class he has gym or recess but he's always outside in the hallway talking to his friend but when I pass by he looks at me and I look at him.his friend always looks at me when I pass by when my crush isn't there so I think either he's spying on me for my crush or he likes me to.BTW at my school girls don't talk to boys at my age (im 10) so how do I make friends with him?

April 12, 2013 at 6:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 12 and I have to go soon because I have period cramps that are really bad and I am scard and would like to know what is going to happen

August 16, 2013 at 12:45 AM  
Anonymous Doglover said...

I don't know if this is bad or alright but, someone has posted something not so good on this story the screen name is what I am talking about it is "Sexy Dancer". It makes me feel uncomfortable!

January 26, 2014 at 11:41 AM  
Anonymous Coolgirl87 said...

Dont be afraid! The doctor will be a specialist!

May 27, 2016 at 7:05 PM  

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