She's too nervous to talk to her crush
We talk to people all the time - blah, blah, blah. Then why is it so hard to talk to CERTAIN people, especially certain people that we have crushes on? Jenny is feeling that way, but it's OK. Let's try to help!
Jenny
Dear PLS,
I really like this boy and last year my class split
up. We used to be good friends but now we NEVER talk, it’s not a personal thing
we just well....don't! I would love to talk to him but it would seem weird if I
just went up and said hi? There was also a rumor that he liked my best friend.
What should I do?
If you
feel comfortable, definitely start a conversation with him. Keep it easy-breezy and try to treat him like you would any other friend.
Since rumors aren’t
always true, you should not worry about whether he likes another girl yet. If
you want to tell him you like him without really “telling him,” ask him to hang
out after school one day. If there is a sporting event or after school even you
could go to, that’s a perfect way to talk to someone without being completely
alone.
After hanging out a few times, you will probably be able to tell if he
feels the same way about you. What else Pink Locker girls? How do you rev up your courage to talk to your crush?
Think
pink!
Jemma
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Never listen to rumours. More often than not, that's all they are.
This is true for me too! I can't talk to the guy I like, but the thing is we aren't really friends, so it would be weird to just start a conversation with him! I've spoken to him a couple times recently, but I want to have a conversation without it being weird! Any advice? Thanks :)
First comment?
omg i know excatly how u feel this actaully happend to me if he doesnt talk to u just go up and talk to him like it no promblem i did that but know he wont stop texting and talking to me its really anoyinng but also wait for him to go up to u
i wish iam the first comment
i dont think it would b akward if u said hi to him cuz u guys were close friends so he wouldnt think it weird...n if its jus a rumor that he likes ur friend then it may not b true...cuz most rumors r not true..if u tell ur bff how u feel, im sure she wouldnt date him if she knows u like him..try to talk to him like he is jus a normal friend
OMG. Jenny, I know exactly how you feel. Except the fact the class split up, but I'm in a split class and he's in the other class. I'm way too nervous to talk to him, and everyone knew that him and my best friend had huge crushes on each other a few years ago and they won't get over it! Don't worry, I get nervous too when I talk to him, but it's going to be okay! Nothing wrong is going to happen, and if it does, it's a good topic to talk about with your crush! I once threw ice at my crush's eye by accident, and I felt like,"Ohmygod. Did I honestly just do that?" But, yes, I became quite close with my crush last year and this year because I'm the only tomboy in the entire grade, and I played soccer with him all the time during the year. And in the summer, I hung out with him and a bunch of other guy friends. So just talk to him casually and when you guys are slightly closer and found out what he likes, maybe invite him to an event that you both like, like maybe a soccer game? He would probably go after that! Don't sweat it, go for it! :)
My crush and I fairly close friends and text a lot but since we're homeschooled the only time we actually each other is on Fridays at our co-op. How do I ask him to hang out without it being awkward?? Also where do you hang out with a guy?? And last question, my mom thinks I should wait for him to ask me to hang out. But he's really shy so I don't think he would. How so I convince my mom it's ok for me to ask him?? Thanks for the help!
ViolinistAtSoul
P.S. I know I've asked the questions before but I'm still don't know how to make it work so I'm asking again
You might want to start a conversation at a time when it seems causal. You could do it when you are in the lunch line if you happen to be next to him or walking out of class. You could start by asking him questions about homework or school projects. You could also ask what he thinks about a teacher or if he likes the lunch being served in the cafeteria. It may seam awkward to you, but since you used to be friends, and the only reason you stopped talking was because you didn't see each other that much, it would probably be fine to start a conversation.
If u see him in the hallway or something, smile. Jemma's advice basically sums everything up. Good luck! =)
How do you tell if a guy likes you? there's this guy at school that I like and I caught him starring at me at lunch twice and I think I heard him wisper my name to one of his friends in math. He also had this rubix cube that he was solving really fast and and i was standing behind him and he showed me the rubix cube and put it right infront of me
@ anonymous- OK well i dont think the cube is that big of a deal but the staring is so i will give you advice i gave someone else. You=1 your friend=2 that guy=3.
Kay step one- 1 asks 2 if she can do this-
2-Hey 3 so rumors been u like 1
3-well ya know she cool in all
2-well if u say yes or no i promise not to tell her
3-idk yet im still deciding if i do or not
2-well keep her in mind shes awsome and fun and really easy to talk to
:) hope this helps- LaRissa
@anoymous...
yup he probably likes u...u can tell if he starts to talk to u way more then b4, or by staring, trying to impress u, trying to act tough around u, laughing at anything u think is funny, or trying to make u laugh....good luck
The advice is just to play it cool like he's one of your girlfriends and start to try like things he's interested in like ask him does he like sports or certain foods always feel ure best
I really like this boy in my school but the only problem is that he is younger then me like a year. Wat should do?
Well here is my advice just say hi nothing more just say hiif younsay hi more often then he will start to talk when you walk past say something funny to your BFFS he may laugh an then he'll get to know you.
ANONYMOUS well he may like you it's hard to tell but if i knew i could say something80 percent sure it think this could be a start of wonderful things but just keep cool talk to him and he'll like u more. But my advice is don't try to hard in the end he doesn't appreciate it
Guess what I'm actually accused of talking to him too much crazy hey!
@Anonymous May 15 a 11:26 P.M.
He totallly likes you!
Well, just say hi discreetly. No one else will notice! I'm sure that slowly, you guys will be friends again.
U guys i just got a F-- on a2 test
I think he loves you too his just too afraid to tell you
I have this problem too. I just talk to him like he's just another guy, although I really love him. I just go with da flow and let him make the first step, because I'm too shy.
school is almost over!!! yayyyy!!!!
There is this boy i like (well 3/4) he goes to church. There is a rumor going between my friends that he likes me. My friends never lie. NEVER EVER LIE, bad apparently it's obvious. He also apparently likes a frenimie i have. I want him to like me more as the frienemie has a friend.
Guess if you think he likes me.
He told me i have a beautiful smile
He talks to me... a lot
He told ne that I'm never negative about anything
He stares at me occasionally... actually quite a bit.
When i came into the church he wanted me too sit next to him...(and so did my friends)
If u think so. Tell me what i do next i like himhe likes me. I can't go out with anyone and he is my friend but . We go 5 years back.
Think pink
Think smart
Smile :-) PinksHugzandPlayingInFun
@PinkHugzandPlayingInFun
he most definitely likes you. Keep going along with stuff he says (laugh at his jokes, sit next to him when he asks you to). Eventually, just let him make the first move. Make sure to be sweet and easy with him so as to not make him uncomfortable. You can even flirt with him a bit (smile).
Good luck!
how often do u guys post things in ur blog
@anonymous..
Uhhhhh...well it depends....if the more ppl ask questions to jemma, the more blogs there will b...
last night i had a dream about my crush! <3 (It's kinda weird, just sayin) so i randomly saw him in the girls' dressing room for gym (don't worry we have curtains) and I was about to tell him to get out, but another girl got to him first. Then theteacher said it was the last gym class. I was walking up to him, but the same girl just came up to him and kissed him. the dream felt real.
omg! i have the same problem with my boyfriend!!!! he says it is because he is shy do you think it is true?????
i post things about every 2 days but that is just me and im new!!!!!!!!!!!
welll i try to post when ever i have a promblem or when ever i have time
ok i kinda have a promblem see u guys all new i had an ex right ? well we have been texting and he told me that he likes my bff which puts me in an awekward postion because before he kept on pretending that he hated her but now he doesnt want me to tell her what should i do part of me wants to tell her part of me doesnt
how do i make a logo
anonymous...oh lol no u dont make the logos urself jemma,the creator of this site, makes the logs...dont worry..keep coming on the site n im sure u'll get one soon!!
HELLO anyone there?
thank u cutiepie4eversophie
OMG! I just had another dream about my crush! It was brief, just an image of him staring into my eyes... <3 sounds cheesy, doesn't it?
I was partners with my crush in school today it was sooo scary!
yes! I'm here!
got 1 crush
I know how u feel jenny. I have a crush on this boy who's moving away and im 2 embarrassed 2 ask him 2 keep in touch :)
-Cupcake:)
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My boy friend didnt give me his number and school is over.
Lucky u i dont get out till the 7 but if u no where he lives go over
Jenny,
I know how u feel because i'm stuck in that spot too. the only problem is that he likes me too!
Hey, I have a question. There's a cute boy in my school and I want to know if he likes me:
- congratulates me at sports and concerts
- smiles at me
- gives me highfives if I do something cool
- but sometimes he flirts with more popular girls.
I really like him, and I'd appreciate it if you'd tell me your ideas. Thanks!
my crush actually was kidding abou moving but he's gone through like 3 gfs in the last 2 months the first one was super mean but pretty, the 2 one i actually like (she was my bff!) but the current one, he's never even talked 2! i've tried 2 help u before plz can i have advice!!!!! thanks guys i luv u!:)
-Cupcake
Ive been crying almost all day in my room because I thought my crush liked me but now I know he dosnt because he got a girlfriend and i almost burst into tears at school when they hugged each other but i caught myself and sort of hid myself behind my friends. I dont know what to do because shes pretty and funny and im not either of those things and its too hard to forget about him because I dream about him all the time and my friend told me to go home and cry about it in the shower. Please help me. Haley
me too, I am the same towards one of my best friends, which is also my crush...and sadly, we end up not talking at all, not even saying hi...
i am sooo upset, and i know it's all my fault because of my personality, but i have no idea how to solve this problem. i am absolutely confused and sad, and i really need advice
at least we could be good friends, right?
Well maybe try and do things he likes or he does
that sooooooooooo happend to me but then i just said hi and asked him why we stopped talking he said he was so focused on his work he stopped talking to all his friends. he also said he was scared to just say hi he thought i was mad. if u dont get it he probably is scared to start talking to u again.:D
@ Anonymous/Haley
That's so sad! :( Wish it could've worked out better for you. Trust me, I know how you feel. I got REALLY sad when I saw my crush dance with two different girls at the dance. Don't think of yourself that way. If you really think, you can always find the silver lining in a cloud. Good luck!
Ok u guys im in 5th grade and i just figured out that my crush is dating a 6th grader im keeping in my tears but i cant stand him i cant beilieve this
Oh ya also hes in 5th grasde to
i have no way to talk to my boy friend no number, no address,he even goes to a different school. only 2 ways i can think of asking my pen pal if she knows his pen pal or asking my brother to tell my boyfriends mom something to tell him.( my brothers teacher is my boyfriends mom)
so I once had a crush from 5th grade that goes to a totally different school than I do. He was in swim team but then they have to get rid of people and now I do not see him anymore. :( And I still like him. Has this happened to anyone else?
Well you should have a friend do it. Or you could go to him and be friends with him and then if you think it's right to see if he is interested.
My life has officially gotten worse...my crush got left up on the top floor all alone with his girlfriend on our field trip...THEY KISSED!!!! I wanted to cry for the rest of the field trip but luckily I'm used to being upset and having to hold it in because of all of the other stuff that has happened to me. Later that day my friends got mad and yelled at me for turning around on the bus to talk to her and my other two friends.
- Haley
And I forgot to say thanks Rosebud!!!
- Haley
I think I have ADHD and every day my crush does something with his girlfriend ( like kiss or hug her) it seems to get worse because I've been taking the same quiz every day and it went from 28 to 31 to 35 and 30 and above is very likely to have ADHD. Is he effecting it???
- Haley
so has anyone had someone you really liked and then they like disappear out your life for a while?
:(
I havent had some one dissapear for a while but have dissapeared for good my dog guess what her name was ps she died a few days before i started going on this site
R.I.P JEMMA she will always be in my heart
Pps her name was realy jemma i got it from a movie becouse she was so brave and tuff
You should make something to talk to him. Such as telling the teacher to put you together in a group maybe, or sit next to him in class
Find out his number and give him a call. I have a major crush and would be very nervous to do this, so I know how you feel. Call him just as being friends, ask if he maybe wants to hang out sometime. Get to know each other more by spending time as flirting friends. This will give you a clue as to if he likes you more than a friend, if he flirts back. Good luck, I hope everything works out!
I love my best friend. We dated and then he broke up with me after a week. He told me he just wanted to be friends. I said o.k. but cried the rest of the day. I really like him and nobody else does. He said that he "tried to love me" but didn't like me more than a friend. I want him back and still have strong feelings for him. Help??? What should I do?? We have a dance soon too. Thanks...
@Anonynous on June 13 at 5:36 PM
You con't do anything about that. If he wants to simply be friends, you cant force him to be more than that.
Don't worry!
Coolgabs1216 A gg
R.I.P. Jemma. Sorry bout the dog. Hope you feel better. Ill pray for her.
My whole grade knows I like this boy (even him)! One of my friends told him last year and then it spread.As soon as I lock eyes with him I look away. He talks to me but then it's only a murmur and I can't say a sentence to him! It's really awkward. We had to change the sign together the other day and when we were trying to unlock it I stood on one side and he stood on the other and every time he put his hand on my side it always met mine!!!!!!!!!! I think his hand stayed on mine for at least 5 seconds at a time! I really like this boy and I have ever since Year 4 (I'm in mid Year 6 now)PLEASE help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Simmy I think he likes you. Maybe you could ask him if he wants to go out somewhere like to the park or something. But make sure to ask your parents first :)
Not likely they'll let me. They say I'm to young to go out. It's probably because I graduate from primary school this year and I might not see him again and they don;t want me getting to attached to him. In other news, a girl said to me at school that she knows a boy who likes me and I'm suspecting that it might be the boy!
Hi simmy! :) coolgabs1216 is totally right!If you need more advice read BOP magazine, tiger beat, or popstar. Good luck!
-pinkgirl9271
Simmy,
He def likes u. maybe wait a few more years and then u can ask hum on a real date. if ur afraid of losing him ask 4 his contact info. don't be embarrassed!:)
-Cupcake
Simmy- I know how it feels when u like someone and then you cant go out becase of parents. IG just stay friends and good luck with the guy your friend shows you
:)
- annonymous
I have a crush to but He's so mean to me I have no idea what to do !
@ annonymous
maybe u can talk to him about it. And sometimes if the r mean they like u. I had a crush once and he was annoying but I think he liked me. Dont worry :)
PERIODS R SO ANNOYING SOMETIMES
:( :(
I know how you feel. I have a crush on a boy and all of my friends who are friends with him keep saying stuff like he he has a crush on my best friend. At the end well he is currently me boyfriend.
be cool I know how u feel I had a crush on this guy alex, but I didn't know how to talk to him I mean I've been in class since 1 st gradr! I didn't know if he liked me but my friends helped me ask him and it turned out pretty good we talk here and there but ask ur friends for advice
Honestly the exact same thing happened to me! Even now whenever I see him I feel my heart pulling a little at the edges! Lol that's sooo melodramatic! Lol anyways we used to spend like 1-2 hours everyday talking to each other and then in September like last September we weren't in the same class we don't Skype anymore we just don't talk! :( he was honestly my best friend for a year
i hhave a crush on a guy that i knew since second grade and last year he and another girl liked each other and were dating but she moved and now im homeschooled and i want his number and im not allowed to go to any of the public school dances and i rillllyyy love him whado i do?
ok now at this one homeschool class i go to there is another boy and he also goes to my church and hes super cute but i still rrrrrreeeeeeaaaaaallllllly like the other boy i need help
Hi Simmy,
I had the same problem with a boy that I really like since my late Year 3's. But what I really want to know is... How do I know he likes me or not??
I sit next to my crush in maths and maths is a double period. I never know what to do. Help !!!
whatever you do, do not tell him u like him! trust me I did and the whole school knew within an hour. I was mortified for a year.
anonymous year three person-(soz u didn't put a name)- if he likes u then hhe will either include you in football(as in soccer) or basketball OR tease you and make fun of you in a nice way.
anonymous math sitting crush-
just act casual don't let him know but flirt a little bit ocassionally
please answer my question I need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
is anybody out there? :)?
hello people!
if it's jenny having the 'to nervous to talk to my crush problem then here: be yourself and think pink!!!
polkadots, i can help you if you need help! on tuesdays i answer A LOT of questions now. i am Wolves08: a boy/crush/period/ etc. pearson!
great go on the valentines day blog and scroll to da middle. my full question is there
There is this kid in my class and I have a mega crush on him and I even think he likes me back but I know that if I confess about my feelings to anyone it will spread around the school. What do I do?
say hi becom good friends and let the rest happen if he was meant for u then you will date. but i have a crush on a guy and i am liking someone else you could change u like
Go for it! :D
HELP ME!! I am was so excited last week to go to a school dance with me crush and he NEVER came! he bought me a necklace to say sorry but i am so scared to talk to him now. help me!
That's so rude of him! Especially in front of u! I suggest ditch him! Find someone who is nice and you're comfortable with. -Shannon h
Yep. -Shannon h
I know right? I'm too nervous around my crush! - Shannon h
That's a hard decision -Shannon h
Look in the phone book
-Shannon h
I'm in the same situation. Read my other replies and you'll know why -Shannon h
Boost your self esteem. Try to feel good about yourself. Your crush will appreciate that. I don't even text any boys yet
-Shannon h
When u get to middle school "friends" pretty much means dating. It's an excuse to be together. -Shannon h
5th graders don't date, silly! They flirt! It's just...wrong for a fifth grader to make out and stuff. They just talk and sit together and maybe put their arm around eachother. But that's the highest you should go. -Shannon h
Yah when I was 5 I had a boyfriend who lived next door (we didn't kiss, ew) but we were like bffs and I moved. -Shannon h
I have ADHD! I Have trouble paying attention in class. My best subject is spelling and I do extra spelling. Sorry to brag, but I can spell at a college level. I plan to compete in the national spelling bee! Ooh and I also love to run! I like long distances. My fav race is the 3000 (which is a 200 away from 2 miles.)I competed in that race in nationals! I am good at all subjects, but I find reading science articles really boring so I choose to daydream then. I can't help my attention, I just find myself drifting off.:) -Shannon h
Ok so there is a boy named George that I used to think(at the time) was cute. He's really silly. Before the annoying began, we used to talk and laugh together. I secretly enjoyed sitting next to him. One day he got up and patted me on the back (awkward!!) Then josh (my worst enemy of all times) got better friends with George. They hung out at lunch, and annoyed me EVERYDAY! They started teasing me and giggling, and following me everywhere I sit at the lunch table. When I scooted away, they would follow me! (At least this thing made me a bit more popular) then I told my friend rebecca that I like George, then she told Ali, (in a louder whisper) and George found out! Everyone knew by the time, ugh! I was good friends with Josh's sister, and we had a sleepover. We took a shower together and I was getting out, then josh and his buddy drew OPENED THE DOOR! Thankfully, last year, I was barely into puberty. You couldn't tell, (which is a relief.) josh spread that rumor, and it was sooo embarrassing! Do u guys think he liked me then, or were we just enemies?-Shannon h
I have a crush too. It can be hard when boys tease girls but try to ignore them. I have a really annoying boy in my class named Josh too😀! If your crush is being mean move on . Who knows maybe you have feelings for a different boy.
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