When Mom gets a boyfriend


Truth be told, we probably would all like our parents to stay together and stay married forever. But in real life, that doesn't always happen. When parents break up, usually mom or dad will eventually start dating new people. That can be tough to get used to. Larissa is in that spot. Let's help!
 
Dear PLS,
“I'm really worried my mom's new boyfriend won’t like me or that my mom will spend more time with him. I'm also afraid of living in a house with him too.”
Larissa
 
You are definitely not alone. Step 1 is to talk to your mom and share your concerns. For sure, she doesn't want you to worry. And she will like knowing that the time she spends with you is so important to you. One good question for her is how serious their relationship is. It may be that she just likes having someone to spend time with and isn't thinking of getting serious. If they are more serious, she can let you know that, too.
 
What would make you more comfortable? Would you like to have dinner with the two of them so you could get to know each other better? He might be as nervous as you are.  
 
What else, Pink Locker girls? Do you have experience with parents who started dating?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how u feel I have a step dad trust me ur moms boyfreid wil like you u could have a step dad one day! and you will be fine it will be cool! :)

May 14, 2013 at 11:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My dad died a couple of years ago and I think my mom so gonna start dating again. I don't want her to because I fell like she will like him more than my dad! Then she will forget about my dad because she loves this new guy way better. I know I Gould be happy when and if my mom gets a boyfriend but I just miss my dad so much and don't want my mom to like anyone better.

LanieJanie

May 15, 2013 at 2:56 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

@Larissa
I know how you feel. Its really scarey at first, but now, I promise it will get easier.
About your mum spending more time with her boyfriend than you, this may think this is happening at first, but it will go away! Remember that your mum always loves you no matter what, but you have to share her.
For living in the same house, it might not happen for a while. When it does, set privacy rules, and you could ask to set up a space that is strictly for you.
Good luck buttercup!!!

May 15, 2013 at 5:29 PM  
Anonymous callmeajesusfreack did i spell that right? said...

yah listin to anoymase she is so right just beur lovable self somebody please help me spell freack

May 15, 2013 at 5:50 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

awww poor girl... u should always talk to ur mom about it n tell her how u feel...she may consider ur thoughts n try to compromise something...im sure they will like u...jus think of it as someone u should automatically b comfortable with..im sure ur mom will give u space to take everything in so u wont feel so bad...hang in there,hope this helped.

May 15, 2013 at 5:51 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

The best of luck to you. Maybe you'll like him once u get to know him some more. =)

May 15, 2013 at 10:23 PM  
Anonymous I_Luv_My_Pitbull said...

Thanks I will use your guys advice. :)- LaRissa

May 16, 2013 at 2:50 PM  
Anonymous I_Luv_My_Pitbull said...

oh thanks for the logo its soooooo cute :)

May 16, 2013 at 2:59 PM  
Anonymous Remakingabraverme said...

@Callmeajesusfreack
Haha, its spelled 'freak'. :)

May 16, 2013 at 5:19 PM  
Anonymous PinksHugzandPlayingInFun said...

I have no experience with this but i know what's like to not like your best friends boyfriend...
Smile everthing will be ok.
If i were you i would pray but you may not be so religious. PinksHugzandPlayingInFun

May 16, 2013 at 6:21 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

@callmeajesusfreack
LOL! It is spelled freak :)
I am super obssessed with you name!
God bless you!

May 16, 2013 at 6:27 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

@Larissa
After reading this post, I wanted to cry! I am so sorry about the situation! It must be really tough for you! First off, you HAVE to talk to your mother! Of course she knows that a new step dad would be a very big deal for you! Talk to her about the situation and try to set some things straight like if their relationship is that serious!
If it is, try to get to know this man very well. Find out more about him. He is most likely worried about whether or not you will like him also!
I think that they are both interested in making sure that these changes arent too much for you
COMUNICATION IS KEY IN THIS SITUATION!!!
REMEMBER! GOD HAS A PLAN FOR EVERYONE! HE WILL HELP YOU!
GOD BLESS YOU!
Best regards,
Pinkadink

May 16, 2013 at 6:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have kind of the same situation except it's my Dad. I hadn't seen him since my parents split. When I saw him again I didn't know he was married I didn't think I was going to like my stepmom, but once I got to know her I actually liked her! So the trick is get to know him! Hope this helps! God Bless you!<3

May 18, 2013 at 4:33 PM  
Anonymous soulsurfer said...

My name is larissa too!!! :)

May 25, 2013 at 11:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Totally know how u feel! My parents got divorced and I was really nervous, too. But my step parents are cool and understanding. You just have to try to welcome them and they will welcome you! Good luck!!

June 29, 2013 at 11:26 PM  
Anonymous Snowleopard051203 said...

I was in that spot once, and it wasn't as bad as I thought in the end.

July 3, 2013 at 3:04 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

If that guy is the right guy for your mom, he will accept you. He will love you. He will not make you uncomfortable. God Bless You All. GBYA!

July 11, 2013 at 1:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my mom has a boy friend and i dont like him but thats just me i bet that unlike me you could talk 2 your mom about it

July 15, 2013 at 10:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

HI ! I need some help . my bf is doing like really bad in school . his grades are really bad and im scared he might fail our grade or something. I feel like im also part of the problem though ! what can I do ? please please please help btw im 14

November 29, 2013 at 11:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Larrisa, you should ask your mom's boyfriend to get to know you. Chances are that he wants to get to know you too.

January 3, 2014 at 12:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how u feel

January 11, 2014 at 4:15 PM  
Anonymous NIKKI said...

larissa ur mum is probaly feeling very nervous too.so is the bf i guess.a mum n daughters bond so strong just remember that.just give it sometime,u neva know he mite b a nice guy.

January 15, 2014 at 9:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What happens if you have 2 crushes and one is your BFF's Ex and he likes you 2 and one you like and think he likes you 2 but Not sure ???? Help !!!

December 6, 2015 at 8:43 PM  
Anonymous Coolgirl87 said...

Talk to your mom. Tell her how you feel. That is all I can say

May 27, 2016 at 7:02 PM  

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