How to say goodbye to your crush

You've had your eye on him all school year and now summer is here. You'll go your way and he'll go his. Summer is awesome, but you can't help thinking that it will feel like FOREVER until you see him again. How can you say goodbye for the summer?
 
This question came in from Anonymous. I think it IS hard, especially if he's been a secret crush. If you don't normally hang out, then it may seem weird to create a big goodbye scene. I think you should find a way to tell him two nice things. Maybe compliment him on something he's good at - sports, playing an instrument, doing karate, whatever. And if the conversation is going smoothly, also say "Have a great summer!"
 
It's simple, not too dramatic, and maybe will be a nice start to a friendship you can pick up on next school year. And who knows? Maybe you'll bump into him over the summer!

Any other crush farewell advice for Anonymous?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous annonymous said...

Anonymous
Thank goodness. I have been waiting for an answer thanx Jamma. I hope that since my crush is on a swim team and since my dad knows him I can maybe see him this summer. And maybe I will find a NEW crush u never know :)

June 16, 2013 at 10:37 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

Maybe something like this-
H-him
Y-you
Here-
Y- School's finally out! (Don't say it directly to him. Kind of say it out loud to anyone while your right beside him)
H- I know right,
Y- (to him) no homework, no teachers
H- Totally (his bus gets called he has to leave)
Y- See ya. Have a great summer.

June 17, 2013 at 10:31 AM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

Thank you for answering this, Jemma! My school will end really late this year and I still have a while, but I'll be thinking on how to say goodbye to him. I'm just really going to miss him. :'(

June 17, 2013 at 4:00 PM  
Anonymous cRe8TivE said...

I have lots of time to work up the courage to say goodbye. We had snow days... and hurricane days!

June 17, 2013 at 4:59 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

U can always call him n txt him daily to keep in touch. U can also video chat sometimes so u can actually c him

June 17, 2013 at 7:49 PM  
Anonymous PurpleRose said...

Okay, so I've never had to deal with this, but I'll give it a try.
So, I would say, "Have a great summer!" to him and maybe give him a hug. If you don't already have it, ask for his contact information(phone, email, etc. ) so you can stay in touch.
How to see him during the summer:
Have one of your friends to ask your crush what activities he's doing over the summer (swim, basketball, volunteer work, etc.) They will tell you and you can sign up for it too. (I don't recommend asking him yourself, but you can if you want to. It will make him suspicious that you like him if he doesn't know already, in my opinion.)
Hope this helped!!!!!!! :) :) :)

June 17, 2013 at 8:01 PM  
Anonymous Rosemary B. said...

I never said goodbye...and now I feel heartbroken.

June 17, 2013 at 9:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@Rosemary B.

I hate that feeling too! I hope your summer life is good!

June 18, 2013 at 7:52 PM  
Anonymous cRe8tive said...

Help! Whenever I see my crush smile at another girl, even next to another girl, I get REALLY jealous! Is this normal for me to be like this? I know it seems weird.

June 18, 2013 at 7:54 PM  
Anonymous Sophisticated Swiftie said...

@Anonymous Okay,so maybe you can keep in touch online? I do that with my crush. Also, you and your crush can meet up during the summer as well. When you meet up, you guys would have more memories together and talk about that often. You guys would be closer and stuff. Just casually ask him on Facebook or something like,"Wanna go to the park?" I also do that with my crush. It's a little bit awkward, but then you guys would be closer!

@cRe8tive Okay, I get that a lot too! It is perfectly normal to feel like that. I know how you feel. During track and field, him and this other girl kept on running off to go find this girl, let's say her name is Patricia. They kept on running off, and I kind of had this squirmy feeling in my stomach and just was kind of like, I want to be that girl. :/ But, yeah, it's normal to feel like that. I'm sure everybody feels like that a point in their lives.

Hope this helped!

June 18, 2013 at 9:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ cre8tive
Actually yea. Here is a story I used to have a boy I really liked since 6th grade but he liked another girl so I was SO>>>> jealous for a while. I think its normal because you like him and you want him to like you too in my opinion



coolgabs1216

June 18, 2013 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Anonymous I know how you feel but you know what. You might see him over summer like you said if he maybe lives close to you. And also you might get over him,and you might see him next year. But what's most important is that you have your family. hope this helped!!!

June 19, 2013 at 10:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

guys have u ever had 2 crushes? I have. One I do not see much and he is in 7th almost 8th (like me) and he is dark skinned. But at school I like this guy with light blue eyes kind of dark brown hair and freckles he is light. Am I the ONLY one who has had this happen 2 me?

June 19, 2013 at 2:13 PM  
Anonymous cRe8tiVe said...

Thanks, everyone who answered me! There's this one girl (she pretends to be all "let's be pen pals!" and silly but then she is serious just like that) who calls my crush her "father" which is just plain weird and I feel like she's steeling him away from me. :(

June 19, 2013 at 3:08 PM  
Anonymous Rose said...

You should get his number and ask if he wants to hang out sometime. Become good friends first, maybe flirt a little. Show off your great personality and be confident. Then slowly work your way into letting him know you like him more than a friend. If not, then back away and remain friends for a while. Maybe he will see what he is missing! Good luck!

June 19, 2013 at 3:53 PM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

jemma can we have an international music celebration week? Its where we talk bout our favorite artists and where we have trivia and music quizzes.

:) :) :)

June 19, 2013 at 10:16 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

This guy who likes me said "Have a great summer" to me at the end of the school year. Totally ok to say. Also, I gave my phone number to the guy I liked but you don't have to cuz we were already close friends but a nice way to stay in touch! Or email address or any type of contact. Good luck!

June 19, 2013 at 10:30 PM  
Anonymous gg said...

Same here i have 2 crushes exept there both light skined

June 19, 2013 at 11:53 PM  
Anonymous gg said...

Hey i have a update to my all CAPS question ok
So i ill summarize it dont worry
SUMMARY
OK THIS GUY I MET FROM MY COUSIN IS REALY CUTE AND I LIKE HIM BUT THE ONLY PROB IS THAT HES SHORTER THEN ME FROM ABOUT A FOOT AND A 3rd AND HES 13 IM 10 SO I HEARD THAT HE LIKES ME I DONT NO IF THATS TRUE BUT YA HE ALWAYS SMILES AT ME AND COMPLEMET ME ON HOW TALL I AM (some of them r weird like he mentions puberty)SO YA

UPDATE
SAW HIM TODAY AND IT WAS REALLY WEIRD AGAIN HE TOLD ME HE HAD A GF SO I SAID I DONT CARE MY COUSINS KEEP SAYING I LIKE HIM AND HE LIKES ME AND HE STILL KEPT ON SMILLING AT ME AND TEASING ME (in a hot way)I

June 20, 2013 at 12:05 AM  
Anonymous gg said...

I dont no wat to do im seeing him again in a week

June 20, 2013 at 11:25 PM  
Anonymous shayla said...

At the end of my school year i am going to cry because we are going to different secondary schools or high schools which ever and i go to a church school so at the end of the year the oldest ones say a few words i am totally going to cry:'-(

June 21, 2013 at 2:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@gg
if he's bothering you, just ignore it.

June 21, 2013 at 3:00 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Dont worry shayla im sure everyone is gonna miss eachother but in high school u will definetely meet new friends so u wont feel so bad

June 22, 2013 at 3:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry then when you see him next year it will make it even more special

June 22, 2013 at 11:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am so sad about the last day of school which is over that day my boy friend didnt talk to me intill 5 min. b4 the bell

June 23, 2013 at 5:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i was so sad i couldnt see my crush this summer that my mom said that i could look up his address and send him a postcard from our vacation place. but should i or would that be like a stalker?

June 23, 2013 at 5:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

on a diff. subject
Jemma l8tly i have been missing my crush from school I have liked him for 2 YEARS! And I miss my friends. I cried lats night. I have also been kind of moody but I have alresady had my pd. I told my mom about missing friends but i cant twll her bout my crush. I dont have much anyone to talk to and I feel kind of desperate. I dont have my crushes contacts :(

June 23, 2013 at 8:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have a pen pal in Germany (its her birthday today) and i want to ask her if she has a boyfriend but i dont want to sound mean. should i ask her or not?

June 24, 2013 at 2:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG! I just met the cutest guy at camp today! I'm there for 4 weeks, so wish me luck! :) :) :)

June 24, 2013 at 4:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...

NEW SUB 10:05
I just watched a man walk on a tightrope live over the grand Canyon!!!!!!! ON LIVE TV with no equipment he made it!!!! Im sure some of u guys watched it.
COOLGABS1216

June 24, 2013 at 9:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I didn't watch it live, but I saw it on Youtube and it was AMAZING! Nik Wallenda is so cool!

June 26, 2013 at 3:01 PM  
Anonymous Giantsgirl7477 said...

This Q is kind of like this one but different. Well, i forgot to say good bye to my hansome, sweet, crush, and now i feel so bad, but i have a enimey that i sometimes text saying just hey or hate you. well he texts my crush but he wont give me his number so plz plz pzl plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz HELP

June 26, 2013 at 8:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I watched the tight rope walker too

June 26, 2013 at 9:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

IF ITS A SECRET CRUSH THEN DONT SHOW IT OVER THE SUMMER AFTER YOU MEET HIM NEXT START HINTING UR FEELINGS TI HIM

June 27, 2013 at 3:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Try to get your crushes phone number another way try all your friends for his number

June 27, 2013 at 11:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

coolgabs1216
I know I like Nick Malenda but he was kind of LOCO not to have a harness or anything

June 28, 2013 at 11:02 AM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

OK, well I have a crush, and my friend is crushing on him too and he says that he likes her, not me but he still wants to be friends what should I do?

June 28, 2013 at 5:20 PM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

Oh, and Nik Wallenda is not loco, he is just very,very,very,very daredevilish.

June 28, 2013 at 5:22 PM  
Anonymous Coolgabs said...

Lol Chloe. I du admit he is a daredevil

June 28, 2013 at 10:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jamma
My parents Escpecially my dad drive me crazy sometimes. They are great and supportive just sometimes I get so annoyed with them my dad..... So is this normal.... I'm A teenager. :(

June 28, 2013 at 10:55 PM  
Anonymous bluesoccer99 said...

Anoynomus

It is totally normal its because of our hormones. Sometimes we act like we normally wouldn't but it is normal at this age

June 29, 2013 at 2:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh thanx blue99 hormones..... :/

June 30, 2013 at 12:17 AM  
Anonymous Coolgabs1216 said...

Hey guys I want to ask u a question are u left brained or right brained? right brained is where creativity is so right brains are more creative. Left brained people are those more logical people aka math science and language?.

Answer if u want .
I'm right.....
Ps. R u guys bothered bi answering questions?

June 30, 2013 at 12:21 AM  
Anonymous PurpleRose said...

@Coolgabs1216
I actually took a test on that this year and it turns out I'm left-brained! And no, I am definitely not bothered by answering questions! It's fun, actually! :) :) :)

July 1, 2013 at 1:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks For Answering Jemma!!!!
Love you for that....
I know how it feels heartbroken....
My Crush and I are just good friends...
I do like him alot.....
Thanks.........

July 1, 2013 at 11:15 AM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

@Coolgabs1216

Sometimes I think in Spanish and I get good grades in school, but I also like creating things. So I think I am a little bit of both.

July 1, 2013 at 6:32 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

coolgabs1216
I think im middle brained, maybe slightly toward the left, but mostly middle. :)

July 3, 2013 at 12:59 AM  
Anonymous Snowleopard05103 said...

Try to act casual, and good luck!

July 4, 2013 at 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

A few days ago at camp, my new friend said that someone at the camp REALLY liked me. She's pretty serious, so I don't think she was kidding me. I have a slight idea on who it is, but I don't want to be wrong. THIS IS SO SUSPENSEFUL!

July 6, 2013 at 8:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

have him sign your yearbook

July 7, 2013 at 8:38 PM  
Anonymous iLoveCandy said...

Write something funny in his yearbook! Every guy likes a funny girl!

July 8, 2013 at 12:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've done this saying good-bye 2 a crush b4 it's hard! Believe me! Just act casual and most importantly don't get emotional! Even if u feel like crying because won't c him for 2 months or more depending on what school u go 2. Good Luck Darling!
xoxoxoxox<3

July 8, 2013 at 5:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just be true to yourself do what you need to do. good luck :)

July 8, 2013 at 8:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

be cool trust ur heart

July 8, 2013 at 8:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my scool-crush brain has turned off. Now my summer camp-crush brain has turned on! SOUNDS WEIRD>

July 9, 2013 at 4:34 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

Whatever you do, don'y make it mushy. Guys in my grade, hate that stuff. If he is your crush make it super casual. If he's your boyfriend...that's different.

July 11, 2013 at 12:56 PM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

So I went to camp forgetting about my crush at school, and met some new friends. One was a crush, the other was just a good friend that was a boy. Now camp is over, and I cried again about leaving. :'(

July 20, 2013 at 12:37 PM  
Anonymous candice said...

If you guys are on the phone dont say oh no you hang up first back and fourth just say ok bye ill can you later

July 21, 2013 at 6:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If a guy asks me for my number, I'll just feel awkward because I'm still not used to having my own cell phone. I'd probably not remember my number, accidentally give him my home number, or just not answer my cell phone...

July 25, 2013 at 4:08 PM  
Anonymous cc said...

This has happened to me only he kinda doesn't know I like him but on the last day of school I gave him a friendly hug. IF you have yearbooks you can always look at his picture day and who knows you might get over him.

August 13, 2013 at 7:26 PM  
Anonymous Eliza said...

This happened to me when my crush moved away.

August 23, 2013 at 12:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi my name is missdiva. I know how it feels when you don't say goodbye to your crush .it happened to me so we even . just tell him that you love him and you're his four letter word

September 26, 2013 at 6:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

one time my crush is staring at this other girl and I was very jealous I know how you feel. and I thought that he was in love with her but they're just friends . and we never ever dated but that won't happen to you you'll get your man.honey child boo trust me you will get your man one day I promise you that . love you bye bye sweetie have a good day . ; always remember let your heart be your guide don't give up on your dreams

September 26, 2013 at 6:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't be shy girls tell him how you feel . be happy and excited that you are going to see him in a week . love you remember love is strong

September 26, 2013 at 6:52 PM  
Anonymous purplemaddness said...

jemma,
how do i know what type of boys i'm interested
in? my friend keep asking if i like good boys or
bad boys. when you have a crush are you supposed to think about if there bad or not?

November 3, 2013 at 9:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its very hard,,,,the words just jumble up inside you even a simple sentence for example 'hey how are you' I do that a lot and I cant help it someone help me

November 28, 2013 at 1:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know hey its hard

November 28, 2013 at 1:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@purplemadness: Honestly I dont think really about that but some people do. what i would say is "I dunno what type do you like?" you can always put the question back on them. hope i helped!

December 5, 2013 at 12:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My crush and I went to church 2gethr. I liked him for over a year, but now he doesn't go there anymore, and neither do I . Bsides, we live ,like, an hour away from eachothr. Its so sad, and not only that, but I told my best friends that next time I see him, I would tell him how I feel! ugggg, its so hard being a teenager

December 6, 2013 at 8:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how u feel girlie! the boy I like and I used to go to church 2gethr, but his family stopped going, so I nevr c him. he could b dead for all I know!

December 6, 2013 at 10:46 AM  
Anonymous Advice Goddesss said...

Wow! That's hard! HARD. But if you have friends over summer, its easy to forget about boys. But, what if you really thought you were getting some where? Here's an idea: leave a MEMORABLE year book note. How about a "See you next year." surround by a cloud with a wink face? If your feeling brave a heart with your name in it!

February 10, 2014 at 9:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a crush too but im not sure if he likes me and its almost the end of the year

May 21, 2014 at 12:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a crush and he doesnt know and its about to be the end of the year

May 21, 2014 at 12:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was feeling brave this year so (since he was single) I kissed my crush on the last day it worked out and now were dating!

July 22, 2014 at 1:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow!

January 3, 2015 at 11:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OK OK OK I know exactly how you feel about good boys and bad boys. You love the pipped jeans messed up hair wild eyes in a bad boy. But good boys you love the nature of them and their sensitivity
to your hurts . But bad boys are sooo sooo cute uggg life is confusing . My crush was like soo bad boyish. his spiked blond hair and his ripped jeans and the long swims in the lake and the time we snuck out to see each other ahhh bad boys.

Tomboy

May 13, 2015 at 12:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how u feel I had the same question well I didn't even say goodbye to mine I am moving so I am never going to see him a gain . so u should probably just say bye or even tell him how u feel before u loose him.
I hope I helped

June 20, 2015 at 6:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how you feel! My crush normally smiles at other girls. I recommend becoming good friends and speak to each other. ;)

June 25, 2015 at 1:31 PM  
Anonymous Coolgirl87 said...

Become friends first and if that works then try to get a little closer. Or get your parents to invite their family over for a barbeque.

May 27, 2016 at 7:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What do i say to my crush in his yearbook. He is very shy, i need help, please help i'm scared!!!!

June 1, 2017 at 7:46 PM  

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