Should Gabrielle date her BFF's bro?

It seems so right but also complicated. Have you ever had a crush on your BFF's brother? That's what's troubling Gabrielle. Here's her question:

Dear PLS,

So, my best friend's brother openly flirts with me.  I really like him, but I don't know if I should take up on his offer of going with him to his senior prom next year. I mean, not only am I just a freshman soon to be sophomore, but it also may effect my friendship with his sister. Should I deny his offer to prom and keep my friendship the way that it is right now, or should I take him up on his offer and go to prom with him?
Gabrielle

In this type of situation, it would be best to talk with your BFF/his sister first. If your friendship with her means a lot to each of you, she will understand how you feel and she may be fine with you dating her brother. But it also might feel uncomfortable for her and she might wonder if you will want to spend more time with him than her.


In high school, these situations occur frequently. If you talk it over with your best friend and explain to her brother how you are feeling, there will be much less conflict because you’re being open about the situation. Good luck!

What else, Pink Locker girls? Has this happened to you?

Think pink!
Jemma


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, first you need to ask yourself a few questions:
1. Do you think you would have fun going with him??
2. Is he a safe/good guy?
3. Would this upset your BFF that much?
And, if she really is you BFF, then she should support you in this. I totally understand that this is awkward for her, but she still needs to be there for you. But, keep in mind that you need to listen to her and work something out if this becomes to hard for her to handle. Remember, sisters before misters!! And it IS her bro your dating!

July 26, 2013 at 10:25 PM  
Anonymous Kat said...

I think you should probably talk to his sister first.If you talk to her she'd probably understand.

July 26, 2013 at 11:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If your BFF doesn't agree that you date her brother you should go to prom with him as friends :-)

July 27, 2013 at 12:31 AM  
Anonymous lulubellebabe said...

first comment!!!!!!?????

July 27, 2013 at 1:24 AM  
Anonymous Yasmin said...

Dear PLS,

The boys in my class tease me because I wear a bra. It's horrible, I don't know what to do about it.What should I do about it?

From
Yasmin

July 27, 2013 at 7:38 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

They shouldn't tease you about wearing a bra. For now, just ignore them; they're all completely immature! When you get older, they'll be teasing the girls without bras, not you!

July 27, 2013 at 12:42 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

You have to talk to your BFF. Put yourself in her shoes. Having a close friend of yours date your brother/sister would be awkward. Make sure you tell her first so that she doesn't feel betrayed in any way.

July 27, 2013 at 12:44 PM  
Anonymous hatlover said...

just remember BFBBF (best friends before boyfriends)

July 27, 2013 at 1:14 PM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

ouch... this is a hard question. I would definitely ask your BFF. Then explain the situation to her brother. I don't know what else to say, I'm only 12 and in 7th grade.

July 27, 2013 at 1:44 PM  
Anonymous ShamuHead said...

@Gabrielle

If it wouldn't upset your friend and you really want to go out with him, do it!

@Yasmin

Smile and say loudly,"Don't you have more important things to do? Like tease another girl about her period, or something like that?" this should knock some sense into them and stop those dumb boys. That's what I did and they were so embarrassed they never teased me again. PS it helps to say it with a teacher or adult within earshot.

Hope I helped!
~ShamuHead

July 27, 2013 at 5:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

How do you lighten your period?? Thx :-)

July 28, 2013 at 10:53 AM  
Anonymous Bad at advice said...

Gabrielle,
Talk to your BFF, you never know she might understand. She will probably be really awkward about it at first, but just explain to her how you really like him and ask her to walk a mile in your shoes. (not literally of course)and tell her "sisters before misters'

Yasmin,
Don't worry about it, sooner or later they will stop teasing you about it and they will probably start checking you out.

July 28, 2013 at 5:52 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

It shouldnt b a problem. If you realy like him then why not? If she is really your bff thrn she will understand.

July 28, 2013 at 7:55 PM  
Anonymous KutexKat said...

hi everyone i need help. Everyone thinks I am a nerd and weirdow because I wear glasses. I don't see a problem but I am thinking I should change my personality. I should get plastic surgery when I am older. My parents said no contacts so I am in a type of like....... a sadness type thing... My crush is going to a different school so I HAVE A SAD LIFE!!!!!!!!

July 28, 2013 at 8:20 PM  
Anonymous KutexKat said...

By the way an update on my dad (A post from a while back the main one from a while ago) HE JUST GOT A NEW JOB!

July 28, 2013 at 8:27 PM  
Anonymous Pretty Kitty said...

@KutexKat
That is stupid! Its not your fault you wear glasses. Sorry I don't really know what you should do about that : /
ps congrats about your dad
@Yasmin
Saying something like "Um, excuse me, but that's my buisness thanks," usually works or if they're like saying you wear a bra, say "yes i do. Got a problem with that?"
@Gabrielle
Definitely talk to your BFF first. If she's ok with it, go for it! If not, i dont think you should.

Hope i helped :)

July 29, 2013 at 1:27 AM  
Anonymous hatlover said...

@kutexkat
Yay for your dad! I just got glasses for the first time a couple days ago i am trying to find cute hairstyles to fit with them and clothes. DO NOT CHANGE YOUR PERSONALITY!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your awesome the way you are! And do not do plastic surgery! It hurts i've heard and lots of celebs who do it do not look good afterward. Evreyone goes through a time in life like this try to just push through it. Maybe when your older you can get contacts they are very expensive though. Talk to an adult qbout this they might be able to help. Try to be open to other boys as i once said it's only a slight chance you'll marry him or anythhing and plenty of fish in the sea. Try to get a hold of him and hang out with him. Hope i helped!

July 29, 2013 at 10:37 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

There really isn't a way to lighten your period. It is how it is.

July 29, 2013 at 11:04 AM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

Kutekax
Ok so glasses I have them Im in 7th grade and blah. But glasses are greaat if they help you see better so smile and ignore those who think you are a nerd they dont know anything about you and your personality. Also you dont need plastic surgery and I would not change anything about my personality.
@ Gabrielle
all I can say talk to your BF she may understand but IDK I dont date yet :-

July 29, 2013 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

Hey guys has anyhting new been posted on the story blog?

July 29, 2013 at 10:38 PM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

@KutexKat

Don't let what you think they think change you. In my school, glasses are the rage! (except when you are smart, then you are a nerd like me) Maybe you could change your type of glasses, more stylish ones? Believe me, I did this and people say I'm pretty. All you can do at the moment is walk around with poise and determination! You go, gal! :)

July 30, 2013 at 11:38 AM  
Anonymous Katharine said...

@ Yasmin don't worry about what boys say about you they are pretty much all a bunch of goofs every now and then. If you hint that you don't like them teasing you by, for example rolling your eyes or ignoring them they will likely stop. :-)

July 30, 2013 at 1:23 PM  
Anonymous Katharine said...

@ KutexKat don't feel like that. You should never EVEEEER let anybody make you feel like this. First of all I AM A TOTAL GEEK!!! And ya'know I kinds like it to. I love to be myself even though I'm not the prettiest or coolest. And yes people will always think about me in negative ways. But I get to show them that it doesn't and wont bother me. I also think that you shouldn't push away yourself because of others. Then they will know that you are self conscious enough for something like that to happen. Love yourself because real beauty is not trying to make something fake. It is the extremely rare one of a kind you that nobody else will ever be! So love you. There will only ever be one you!!! :-) <3<3 <3

July 30, 2013 at 1:32 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@Kutex Kat
It doesn't matter what others think at all! You are you. And they are totally dumb! I wear glasses and I'm a nerd too, but sometimes or most of the times, it's a good thing! You are smart. It's not your fault you need glasses. Some people are just born that way. I had a crush that moved away but I'm way past him already. You guys can exchange phone numbers, email each other and Skype. Maybe find another guy like I did. It's okay to move on. You DO NOT need plastic surgery! You are born to be you. All that matters is the inside. If you're thinking about changing your personality u really don't have to but you can be more open, nice, helpful, outgoing, smiley and an all out fun girl to be around! But U should remain your true self. :) And yay for your dad! I know sometimes your life just sucks but u got to be optimistic and look at the bright side of things like....at least u can see clearly in class which gets u awesome grades or u can move on and find a new guy in life or just enjoy being single and free. Hope I helped!!! :)

July 30, 2013 at 9:22 PM  
Anonymous NotStrongAfterAll said...

Ok, at our school u get to choose athletics or Wellness and my parents made me choose wellness which is basically like regular pe. Athletics is volleyball, basketball and track. I really wanted to do athletics because it's harder and I love a good challenge and it lasts a full year (wellness 1/2.) I'm the super athletic kind but my parents made me choose wellness so I could do Spanish and orchestra. I'm so sad. I'm working out everyday to make up for not being able to do athletics. Also my friends and all the popular people r doing athletics.
:( I just want some comforting words or encouragement or something...

July 30, 2013 at 9:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Does anyone find it hard to believe summer break is almost over? I go back in a wk to school.

July 30, 2013 at 9:47 PM  
Anonymous Pretty Kitty said...

I can't wait for school to start! everyone says im crazy but i love school so much!
@NotStrongAfterAll
Don't let it get you down. That can sometimes be a bummer but I think your best options are to enjoy your class and have a good attitude, because if you don't you are just going to have a miserable year. It's great that you are working out and staying healthy!

August 1, 2013 at 3:30 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Ikr! But I go to high school in September! I'm a little nervous... :S

August 1, 2013 at 11:30 AM  
Anonymous Natie said...

@KutexKat i wear glasses, try getting a prettier pair? And if they say your a nerd just tell them 'better than being an idiot' it might take them some time to figure it out. But say it with a smile and once you have said it just walk away!

August 2, 2013 at 4:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You should always follow your heart... unless he's a complete punk. Your BFF will most likely not freak out. you should never be held back by a friend.

August 2, 2013 at 11:29 AM  
Anonymous Madison said...

Well although i'm only 11. Before i PCS'ed to Kansas i had a friend name Allie. Her gig brother is around my age. I had a crush on him for about two years. I had this same problem. But i got over him so i never asked him. But i think you should.

August 2, 2013 at 12:20 PM  
Anonymous Coolgabs1216 said...

Not strong after all
It's ok maybe you could c if u can change classes..... If not suffer thru PE. It will all b alright.

August 2, 2013 at 1:42 PM  
Anonymous Coolgabs1216 said...

No new news or comments so I was wondering what are your thoughts do u like applesauce or yogurt better? I kno this is totes random but hey answer if u want.

August 2, 2013 at 1:44 PM  
Anonymous onedirectionlover said...

@NotStrongAfterAll
i want to do vollyball and cross contry but they happen at the same time. think of when enery one else is doing the other class you will have more free time and you know. trust me being fit is not every thing in life

August 2, 2013 at 4:57 PM  
Anonymous onedirectionlover said...

dear KutexKat

have you ever heard the song what makes you Beautiful it tells you that you are beautiful no matter what people say and trust me i found this song when i was having a hard time myself. you are very beautiful and i know beacause your personality is beaudiful. inter beuty is better than outter beuty. and glass every person in my family has glass and i'm getting them next year.

August 2, 2013 at 5:07 PM  
Anonymous onedirectionlover said...

or littel thing
they are both by one direction

August 2, 2013 at 5:08 PM  
Anonymous onedirectionlover said...

@ Coolgabs1216
i kind of can't have yougert(i'm lactoos free0 and i don't like applesauce.but i like frozen yougert so ta da

August 2, 2013 at 9:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kutexkat
I wear glasses and believe me being a nerd is actually a good thing because that means you r smart. And NEVER change your personality for people, if can't accept who u r that is their problem

Hope I helped

August 3, 2013 at 8:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Glasses are AWESOME! I don't know why people are calling you a nerd. If it really bothers
you, maybe you could wear contacts.( Mom approved, of course.) You should love yourself. One thing you should never do is insult them back. That starts a all-out war.

August 3, 2013 at 11:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have anxiety about getting bullied and it ruins my life not literally, but school starts on August 12th for me and I am terrified of going back. I feel like everyone is going to hate me and it is going to be bad. I have been getting this because my friend hasn't been texting me back and it makes me think of all the negative things that could happen and I know she could be busy cause she helps her gramma and stuff but every time I try to think the positive it just gets blurred out by all the negative thoughts. So what should I do?

August 4, 2013 at 2:48 PM  
Anonymous brigit said...

I think that you should talk to your bff and she'll understand so I say if its ok with her go for it

August 4, 2013 at 10:42 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

If you really like him, you should go! but talk to your friend first. also keep in mind that prom is a long way away. maybe just commit to going to homecoming together for now.

August 6, 2013 at 2:19 AM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

anonymous on August 4:
talk to a parent or teacher. they'll talk to your principal who will suspend them, or maybe just get them in trouble. If you're worried about that making it worse, it's not like the bullies will know that YOU told on them. and it's not tattling. tattling is when there's no good reason to tell, but if someone's getting hurt physically or emotionally, you should tell.

August 6, 2013 at 2:24 AM  
Anonymous Tina said...

So I have a crush on this guy, and he flirts with me a ton. He compliments me all the time, dances with me, and things like that. The problem is though, that another guy told me that my crush's best friend really likes me. And the best friend is a guy that I may be studying with for the rest of the year. And then these other guys figured out (or think they figured out) who I like, so they're trying to cause trouble between us three.

I'm a huge tease and can be really hyper around my friends, so how can i smooth out the tension with these guys so i don't ruin my friendship with any of them or ruin my crush and his best friends friendship? I need to kinda be subtle though.

August 6, 2013 at 4:05 AM  
Anonymous TrueMU said...

For me school starts in eight days, and we can't wear shorts starting in fifth grade, which I'm going into. That's middle school for me. That means lots of things will be changing. So, how do I get to it?

August 6, 2013 at 10:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should tell him the situation and to tell your BFF about it.

August 6, 2013 at 6:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow, sorry your summer starts late. Dress codes are kinda annoying, but is suggest to just adhere to it. I have a dresscode at my school, so I just end up wearing jeans early on. However, wearing skirts and dresses create a really stylish look to, so if they're long enough, go for that! Shorts are cool, but dresscode a make you open up to even awesome fashion possibilities!

August 6, 2013 at 7:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My friend thinks she over weight but she not I keep telling her she's not but she does not believe me what should I do

August 7, 2013 at 12:54 AM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

TrueMU:
Middle school isn't much different than elementary school. It's a bit more cliquey, and the kids talk about more inappropriate subjects, and you have multiple classes instead of one, and you have a bit more homework...
that may seem like a lot, but it really isn't. If you have a small group of friends, you'll be fine. you don't even have to have the friends right now! I didn't meet any of my current friends until the first day of middle school! and you just have to get used to what middle school kids talk about. and you'll get used to having 6 classes. and about the homework, the teachers don't plan with other teachers, so one night you might have an hour's worth of homework in each class, and the next night, you might only have a 10 minute piece of homework in one class.
I hope you have a good time in middle school! :)

August 7, 2013 at 2:51 AM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

@TrueMU

What do you mean when you say you can't wear shorts? Anyway, change might not necessarily be a bad thing. Don't be afraid of change, people have been afraid of it for centuries and sometimes it gets them into trouble. If there are school rules, sometimes you just have to obey them. It stinks, but you have to follow rules if you want a job in your future. Good luck :)

August 7, 2013 at 5:44 PM  
Anonymous Natie said...

I HATE BOYS! so i was at this engagment party for my old horse riding teacher and there was a cute boy there. Blonde hair, deep tan, tall, need i go farther? Anyways, cause we were the only ones our age there we hung out..... ALL DAY. We played croquet, talked, played with his little brother and he taught me how to play golf. And when he taught me how to play golf it was like something from the movies. Only thing is.... My ex is still wanting to go out with me again. But everytime i think if the boy from the party, I feel depressed, I feel like my heart is reaching out for him. I think i'm lovesick. But.... He lives at the other side of the country and i didnt get his number. I am ashamed of myself for that. I will prob see him at the wedding. I hope....

August 7, 2013 at 6:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you should really tell your best friend that way she can trust you as a true friend.

August 7, 2013 at 10:31 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

I got on the dance team even though I'm a newbie and we're learning 7 dances in 4 days and our show is on the last day where we dance all we learned and so far I'm struggling on remembering the choreography. I practice around 2 hours everyday. Any tips?

August 7, 2013 at 10:52 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

Beautiful Blossom:
7 dances in 4 days? No matter how good the other girls on your team are, I'm sure most of the dances will be kind of sloppy. But to do the best you can do ask your coach if you can video tape the dance so you can remember when you practice. and the thing that will help you the most is pay attention, concentrate on your part, and PRACTICE. It WILL be hard, and you can ask the other girls on your team to help.
Hope I helped!

August 8, 2013 at 1:20 AM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

@Natie

I know exactly how you feel! I seem to have a crush for every place I go! (I know, it sounds very weird) If the two boys don't know each other, it's fine! I solved my problem with calling (in my head) one a "friend" and one a "crush". Good luck! :)

@Bluetiful Blossom

I don't take dance, I haven't ever, and never will, but that seems like too much dancing to remember! Talk to your dance teacher, maybe they can help you remember. If all else fails, when you perform, remember as much as you can, but look at others and copy their movements. Smile and act in character, nobody in the audience will know. I do a tiny bit of dancing in the theater productions I'm in, and they tell us all this. Good luck! :)

August 8, 2013 at 11:49 AM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

Hi Jemma! I'm having trouble submitting my questions. When I hit the submit button, it says "No input file selected".

August 8, 2013 at 12:00 PM  
Anonymous Emma said...


Hi,
My bestfrirnd is my crush I want to get out of the friend zone but he knows i like him but he has a crush on the most populaur girl in school who is talking bad about him what should i tell him without sounding jeaulous?

August 8, 2013 at 3:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@Natie- first don't hate boys I mean there are plenty but maybe every time you think of him then think of something else. Cheer up.
Emma- maybe you could hint about the girl by writing him a note or tell him what the girl is doing.

August 9, 2013 at 8:21 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Thx to those who gave me advice :) I'm glad our teacher is giving us all of football dancing to polish off and learn a few, hopefully not a lot, more dances. :) Practice makes perfect! =)

August 9, 2013 at 11:29 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@Natie
Omgosh, he sounds dreamy. Follow your heart. If u still have feelings for your ex, go out with him. I totally get how u feel. Next time, try to get his number. But remember not to get to attached I mean, he might have a girlfriend or turn out to be a jerk or something. Good luck and don't forget to tell us how it ends! :)

August 9, 2013 at 11:32 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@Natie
And one more thing, if u never get to see him again or something horrible happens with him. It's okay. Just brush it off and move on. There will be plenty of boys later in your life even if not now at the moment. :)

August 9, 2013 at 11:35 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@Emma
That is a tough one. In my opinion, no matter how jealous u might sound, u should tell him about it. She isn't worth your guy if she's off gossiping. He might not believe u and if he says something like, your just jealous. Girl, he is not worth your time. Do all u can and maybe in the end things will stay the same but who knows, maybe he'll realize that girl is horrible and fall in love with u. Good luck! :)

August 9, 2013 at 11:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell your best friend first. If she feels uncomfortable, don't do it. It wouldn't be worth it. If she is fine with it, go ahead girl! But, keep in mind, Sisters Before Misters!

August 10, 2013 at 1:31 AM  
Anonymous Coolgabs1216 said...

Jemma I have a question do u read over every story sent in and how long does it take to kno if u got on. I have an idea why don't you send an email when someone gets their writing on the blog and if they don't don't send anything. It is so frustrating not knowing if u got on or not. :(

August 10, 2013 at 10:37 AM  
Anonymous Natie said...

OMG i just did exactly the same thing but it was a camp

August 10, 2013 at 5:55 PM  
Anonymous Kelsey said...

I had my period last month on the 16th through 18th and I got my period again yesterday and today (9 & 10) The dates aren't the same. Is that normal?

August 10, 2013 at 9:03 PM  
Anonymous gg said...

Please help me okay so i already have had my period so im still having discharge but when i went to the bathroom it came out on the toilet paper and it was like a long slime is it normal for it to be like long sorry if i grossed u out but i just wanted to know just in case

August 11, 2013 at 1:03 PM  
Anonymous D: said...

I'm getting braces soon but before that, I have to do pull 2 teeth out and I really don't want to do it. They give tons of numbing shots and they hurt. Did it hurt when u guys got your braces?

August 12, 2013 at 3:17 PM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

@gg
I have same problem.

@D:

Pulling out teeth doesn't hurt or the shots. Just keep calm (and carry on). It didn't hurt much, but when they give you the glue to put the back brackets on, it tastes terrible and is as bad as pain. Just remember, you'll have perfectly straight teeth after you get them off. good luck!:)

August 12, 2013 at 7:15 PM  
Anonymous D: said...

Ok, I have even worse news. Turns out I have to pull out 4 teeth to keep my top and bottom teeth even. They have to cut my gums to pullout the adult teeth and then sew it back up. My mom also gave me the choice that I don't have to do it if I don't want to. What should I do? Go through a ton of pain and stuff for beauty or stay ugly?

August 12, 2013 at 7:16 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

Oops, I meant football season on my other comment about dancing

August 12, 2013 at 7:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi,
im 12 and still have no signs of puberty. is that normal?

August 12, 2013 at 7:43 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

Kelsey:
that's normal especially if it's one of your first year or so of periods. in fact, even though most girls have a monthly cycle, some have bi-monthly cycles, and some are just irregular most of their life. if your worried, ask a doctor or go to a gynecologist

gg:
that's normal. my discharge sometimes reminds me of runny nose liquid-stuff, and lots of girls get discharge after periods, it's just a way of cleaning the inside of you. but if you're worried you should go to a gynecologist.

D::
Braces do hurt, but not right after you get them on. more like, 3 hours later. but you'll survive.
ps I have had I think 8or 10 teeth pulled in the past. no fun. :P

August 12, 2013 at 11:34 PM  
Anonymous Periwinkle said...

@Kelsey
It's perfectly normal to have irregular periods, especially when you're just starting. When you get older they will probably even out, though most likely it won't be perfectly regular. Sometimes periods never even out, but they usually do.

August 13, 2013 at 2:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@kelsy- How long have u had pd I know this is kin dof odd but your period will b irregular for a while.
D- sorry I havent got braces :(
gg- IDK I know discharge happens but IDK maybe want to ask someone bout that. Preferbly someone you know

August 13, 2013 at 6:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OK so I have an odd question Jemma but does skin color haveanything to do with the color of your period blood? Like browner blood brown or red if caucasian thanx I kno its a bit akward.....
And can people tell whetther you are wearing a padded bra
- one last question are mood swings supposed to go away first day of pd?????

August 13, 2013 at 6:29 PM  
Anonymous CC said...

Be brave sit and talk with the both of them it will help and increase both of the relationships alot. Go pink!

August 13, 2013 at 7:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

kelsey and gg:

both are totally normal! When you first start your period, it's normal for it to be on uneven dates.
Discharge is, well, sticky? Not that I've touched it... :-/ Anyhoo, it's normal! Puberty is really weird and is different for everyone, but discharge isn't usually, like, liquidy. Gah. This is awkward. erm, I'm done talking! bye!

August 13, 2013 at 9:07 PM  
Anonymous hatlover said...

Me too!

August 13, 2013 at 11:06 PM  
Anonymous hatlover said...

Just a bit and frankly getting teeth pulled out dose'nt really hurt. My family made milkshakes the day i got braces!

August 13, 2013 at 11:13 PM  
Anonymous Emily said...

She should talk to his sister about it first to check she's alright with it.

August 14, 2013 at 6:45 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Yes, the dates won't always be the same.

August 14, 2013 at 2:16 PM  
Anonymous Pretty Kitty said...

Guys help! Teeth problems!
Im really scared. In November I'm getting braces (on most of my teeth) but also since the connection between my lip and my gum comes down really far I have a gap between my front teeth. The orthodontist wants to cut the connection a little so my front teeth grow together bu I'm super scared.
The gap between my teeth does bother me but I don't know if it's worth it. Help? Please?

August 15, 2013 at 2:06 AM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

@Pretty Kitty
It's ok. I've never had this problem but I've had a problem similar to that. When I was born, the string on the other side of my tongue connected to the bottom of my mouth was connected to my tongue too much (it's hard to explain) So I couldn't point my tongue and it was really short and sometimes it causes language problems so I went to the doctor and he cut the string a bit. That day, I was super scared. They took a cotton ball soaked with this numbing medicine and put it on the bottom of my tongue before they gave me the shot which tasted horrible. I could barely feel them cutting it and I held my moms hand tight the whole time. It bleeded a lot and we went for ice cream after. For days i couldnt speak and could only mumble things or write them out. It hurted for a few weeks but now my tongue is all better and it was worth it. It's even more worth it if it can make your teeth straight. I hope I helped! :)

August 15, 2013 at 10:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I like this boy but I am really scared about talking to him because I want to start off as friends but he isn't in my class or my grade he is in 5th and I'm in 4th and at lunch he is all the way across the gym so I can't talk to him and when I do get the chance I clam up and just don't talk to him but are parents used to work together except they aren't in connection anymore so one time I did say hi but he just waved does That mean I have no chance

August 16, 2013 at 12:48 AM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

D: :
I had to do the same thing. I had 4 teeth pulled at once. 2 baby teeth, and 2 adult teeth under those baby teeth that hadn't grown in yet. The put you on a lot of pain killers, and put you asleep for the actual tooth-pulling itself. it may hurt a bit, but you'll survive. :)

Anonymous on August 12:
yup, that's normal. you're just a late bloomer. If you're worried, you can see a gynecologist.

Anonymous on August 13:
No, but there are several colors of period blood, all red-ish, ranging from bright red to brown
usually not
They aren't "supposed to", but they aren't not "supposed to" either. anything on that topic is usually normal, but if you're worried, you can ask a gynecologist.

Pretty Kitty:
I've never had anything like this done, but I would think it would be worth it. Think about it, a few days of not-TOO-bad pain any you get a lifetime of a beautiful smile. the orthodontist wouldn't do anything to hurt you.

Hope I helped! :)

August 16, 2013 at 2:09 AM  
Anonymous onedirectionlover said...

@Pretty Kitty
i don't have gap so i had to wait like 2 monthes for the gap to come with beaces

August 16, 2013 at 9:02 PM  
Anonymous onedirectionlover said...

D:
trust me i've had 9 teeth pulled and when i did i got to have ice cream and all the happines on the world and don't worry you will a lovely smile after

August 16, 2013 at 9:06 PM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

@pretty Kitty
I would recommend talking to your mom or dad and tell them about your tooth and how you don't know if it is worth it. They can probably either make you feel better bout it, or give you advice. Bring your fav stuffed animal or lucky thing too on the day you get your teeth done it may help u be less scared :)

August 16, 2013 at 10:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell him that you heard the girl he likes made fun of him and that you aren't making it up and are just looking out as a friend

August 17, 2013 at 12:43 AM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

Anonymous on August 16:
You're reading too far in between the lines. he may have really been concentrating on what he was doing. Also, one year isn't that much! what is that, 365 days? that's not too big of a deal. Also, don't be so nervous talking to him. he is a regular person just like you or me. but of course, he's a boy, unlike you or me. finally, no offence, but I think you're a little too young to have a boyfriend. I'm going into 8th grade and I've never had one, and really, I don't feel that far behind. only a small number of the girls my age I know have had boyfriends.
hope I helped!

August 17, 2013 at 4:44 AM  
Anonymous PurpleRose said...

@Pretty Kitty
I suggest to talk to your parents about about it, and see what they think you should do. If you still have to take your teeth out, if you are religious, pray that you won't be scared. If you aren't, take deep breaths and think of happy things to make you feel better.
Hope I helped!
-PurpleRose

August 17, 2013 at 11:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma still has not answered my questions :(

August 18, 2013 at 3:55 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

Anonymous on August 18:
Jemma doesn't have time to answer every question< but if you have a question, you can always ask it here, in the comments! :)

August 18, 2013 at 6:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Totally. He sounds like a great guy, but when you go to prom, stay out of your friends sight. Make an exuse (for both!) and tell them your going to get them a snack and then hang out with the other one away from the snack bar (but don't forget to get the snacks!) Tell your friend (if theres live music) that your date is a band member and he's gonna play all night and you'll get to hang out with her. Good luck!!

August 20, 2013 at 7:15 PM  
Anonymous Confuzzled! said...

So not to take away from all the other problems but I have a little question. Alright, so I think this guy in my class likes me. I mean he came all the way to my house just so he could ride bikes with me and he is constantly flirting with me. But, one problem. He's my best friend!
What am I supposed to do. I don't know if I like him like that! Or do I...I don't know! Help!

August 24, 2013 at 3:48 AM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

Confuzzled
well.... u can tall that he probably likes you but I would not make a move yet. I would wait until maybe he asks u then make the decision. And its OK to b confused boys tend to be :) Oh yeah Jemma has been posting l8tly YAY YAY YAY :) :) :)

August 24, 2013 at 9:54 PM  
Anonymous Twig Sanctafranx said...

YES, i think you should go with him to the prom. if your friend has a problem with that, you should talk it over with her; she is your BFF and will probably understand.

confuzzled-- if he hasn't asked you out or something, you don't need to do anything.

August 26, 2013 at 1:08 AM  
Anonymous Periwinkle said...

Hey guys. When does your school start? Mine started two weeks ago.

August 30, 2013 at 9:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I started school about 3 wks ago :)

September 2, 2013 at 10:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my name is shay shay and gabrielle talk to your friend on the phone and tell ur mom what u think too she has gone through some of the things we have so talk with ur mom and friend :)

September 29, 2013 at 6:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You need to know how will you and your BFF feel?
Your friend needs to be with you every step of the way even if she is uncomfortable remember if you go round their house you can NOT leave her out so arrange a schedule to make time for both of them so nobody is left out

September 30, 2013 at 1:44 PM  
Anonymous Shreya Arun said...

I think you should get to know him and tell your best friend

November 5, 2013 at 5:07 PM  
Anonymous Brooke43 said...

I like a boy. My friend used to like him .He always smiles at me and picks me when we do partner work.Should I tell my friend,should i tell him?HELP

November 27, 2013 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't tell him or her I liked my friends brother and he was very cute just let things go natural
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December 4, 2013 at 7:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

tell her that she should ask him out, then you chat and try to ask him out

December 4, 2013 at 8:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a crush on my bff's brother .. He is adorable dark,tall,blue eyed.. What should i do?

December 6, 2013 at 2:29 PM  
Anonymous faith said...

i think that it is ok as long as it does not get in the way of your friendship

January 8, 2014 at 1:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Truthfully...I looked at some of your comments. I haven't gone through any of this but if I got into a situation like this, it would be good advice. Thanks!

January 11, 2014 at 8:45 PM  
Anonymous Wolves08 said...

wow...that is the kinda thing you should ask the bff.

ask and check to see if things are ok to do
Wolves08 over and out

February 3, 2014 at 6:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey I see your problem just go with your heart and see if your best friend is good with it :] if she says yes think about it well your friend likes it and your friends brother is ok with it so go ahead ask him!

May 9, 2014 at 9:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just talk to your friend first, if she's okay with it, knock yourself right out! If not, tell your friend's bro that you're worried about how the prospect of you two dating might affect the relationship between you and his sister. If going to prom is more with him is more important, then do it. You're friend will probably get over it. In the mean time keep smiling!
XOXO
~Kitty

May 25, 2014 at 5:26 PM  
Anonymous kayla said...

I think you should really think about it because your a freshman ( i will be to, Turn Up! ) and hes a senior, and talk to your bff i think she'll under stand. i went out with my bros best friend he didn't really have a problem with it.

June 3, 2014 at 2:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is a touchy subject so make sure to assure your friend that everything is going to be ok between you and her brother. Good Luck !

June 21, 2014 at 10:06 PM  
Anonymous jjl said...

don't worry just tell your friend

July 9, 2014 at 9:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Follow ur heart do whatever feels right!!!!!

July 19, 2014 at 12:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My advice ask your friend how they feel about it and go from there

August 7, 2014 at 1:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok, this might sound odd.
my big sis is 15. And she has had a guy friend ever since she was, like, 5. And they haven't seen each other in like 3 years but they are really good friends, and txt a lot. He is a year younger than her though. They txt playful banter mostly. And then he compliments her and than adds "JK!" I'm pretty sure he likes her. I mean, he has for a WHILE(everybody knew), but its iffy now. He used to lie and say to his family and friends that she was his girlfriend. He really liked her. He's super sweet, but looks like he's 19, even though he's 14. Even my mom said, "I'm pretty sure he will try to win her heart." And the problem is, she loves him like a brother. She's not lying ya'll. What if he asks her out? I feel weird asking for her, but I need advice if she asks my advice HELP!!!

August 19, 2014 at 1:24 AM  
Anonymous HelperGirl123 said...

Okay Anonymous, first, has he been flirting her? If so, ask your sister, is he a good guy. And third, if your sister says yes, you say yes!

January 3, 2015 at 1:53 PM  
Anonymous rkcrocks said...

Wow. That's GOT to be really awkward. Good luck!!!

June 14, 2015 at 5:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u should talk to your BFF and if she really is your BFF the she will understand

June 20, 2015 at 6:20 PM  
Anonymous Coolgirl87 said...

You should talk to your friend and tell her how you feel.She should understand.

May 27, 2016 at 6:58 PM  

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