Triple-decker problem

Did you ever have a time when you had a little more than you could handle? Anonymous sent in a trio of questions on Aug. 20 and seems to be feeling that way. Let's see if we can help!

Dear Jemma
I have a huge dilemma. OK so lately I have noticed double periods and I really want to talk to my mom about it so maybe I can go to a gynecologist but thee thought makes me shiver. I mean its super awkward and weird.


Number two I'm sad because I have a crush that lives far away he came to visit Ga and I spent rest of summer hiding I dint get to say bye and our pastor I adore is moving.

I want to talk to my mom too. But I just don't know how to bring it up. I love my mom and she can give really good advice but I am afraid of bringing up awkward subjects. PLEASE HELP. Oh yes Pink locker girls I need your help and advice too. What would you do if you were in my shoes?????
Anonymous

Let's start with #1 - double periods. It all depends on what you mean by double periods. Periods are known to be irregular for younger girls, but it's always a good idea to check with the doctor. It may be that you can just go to your regular doctor, not the gynecologist. But it all starts with talking to your Mom, so she can make an appointment. Until your appointment, try keeping a log of when you have your period so you can give more info to the doctor.

#2 - The crush you didn't say goodbye to. Sigh, the one who got away. We've all had crushes that ended like that. But the good news is that sometimes dreaming of your crush and imagining what it would be like to be a couple is more than enough for now. And who knows? Maybe you'll cross paths next summer. Or if you have his address, it can be fun to send a letter. Though boys are generally NO GOOD at writing back.

#3 - The pastor you like who's leaving. This is sad, no question about it. Why not make him a gift or a card to show him how much you enjoyed having him at your church? Grateful words mean a lot.

And finally, you asked about how you might talk to your Mom about these and other problems. If you're feeling shy, try these approaches:

1. Send your mom a text or an email saying you'd like to talk.  
2. Take advantage of time together in the car when there's no one else around.
3. Tell your mom you'd like some one-on-one time and could you go for a walk or go to lunch sometime soon.

Moms want to help so try to be brave and share what's on your mind. Any other advice givers out there? Add your advice for Anonymous!

Think pink!
Jemma
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Anonymous Anonymous said...

i can only awnser talking. practice talking to you computer.

August 30, 2013 at 9:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have an answer talking to your mom isnt a bad idea just be careful of what you say because some moms are not good with their little angel (you no matter how old you are thats what they say) like my stepmom for example she dosnt like it when i talk about boys but thats a part of being a girl so just tell your mom how you feel and be truthful about and maybe she will understand shes probally been in your shoes so stay happy keep crushin
and think pink


August 31, 2013 at 5:31 PM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

Sigh. I just left two guys I met at summer camp. They weren't crushes, just friends. Now I'm really sad because I will not see them until next year. :'(

August 31, 2013 at 10:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just ask ur mom for some time. u don't have to feel akward because she was a kid to.jemmas right mothers just wanna help u should make.a card for ur paster.and I don't know what to tell u bout ur crush except I'm sorry but we've all been there its hard I'm so sorry sweetie.
I hope this helps
~lesa

September 1, 2013 at 4:39 PM  
Anonymous Alara said...

Help! I really want to go and get fitted for a bra but I don't know how to ask Mum?! Thanks, Alara xxxxxx

September 6, 2013 at 1:08 AM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

@Alara- Talking to moms can be a little bit odd but you may want to talk to her. First, make up a list of reasons why you want too get fitteed for a bra or make up the whole conversation on paper then aproach your mom when she has some time to talk like when she is alone. GL (Good luck)

September 7, 2013 at 7:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

anyone know what double periods are? cuz I've never heard of them before, which is saying a lot cuz there are four girls in my family and I'm the youngest...

September 11, 2013 at 7:34 PM  
Anonymous Tulipa said...

What are double periods.
I've started mine

September 13, 2013 at 12:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think the're like when you get your period twice in one month

September 13, 2013 at 2:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah double periods r when u get your pd twice. Actually since I wrote comment things have been better. Bye.

September 15, 2013 at 2:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

used advice from a boy my friends laugh at me need advice:(

September 16, 2013 at 10:05 PM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

advice ABOUT WHAT ???????????
@ annonymous sept. 16

September 17, 2013 at 5:08 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

@ Anonymous-
Moms are moms. They know you, they understand you and they've been through the same stuff. She'll understand!

September 26, 2013 at 6:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma,
Why won't the Pink Locker Society let me ask a question???? What's wrong with the website???? It says "no input file specified" whenever I submit a question. I need help and advise ASAP but I can't even ask any questions!!!!! And they're IMPORTANT!!!! I need help please???!!!!!

September 27, 2013 at 7:04 AM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

@ Anonymous-
I had that problem when I wanted to submit a question.

September 27, 2013 at 3:39 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

It has been fixed now.

September 30, 2013 at 4:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah thank god cuz my question was really important!!!

October 1, 2013 at 7:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that was my question to that's so weird

October 1, 2013 at 9:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My friends dad was in a car accindent and my dad told me something about the accident that my friend doesn't know and I'm Not suppose to tell but I want to . What should I do ?

October 10, 2013 at 9:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your mum isn't going to tell you off for having double periods. A period happens to every girl, no matter what, so don't feel alone because heaps of others will have the same problem.

October 13, 2013 at 3:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I find talking to my mom about pbb embarissing so I usually leave a note stating the topic. I do this before bed and leave it on top of my mom's pillow, that way it saves you the embaressment

October 29, 2013 at 5:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry but I only have an answer about talking to your mom. Its best you only talk to her about these kind of things when your on your own with her or if your comfortable talking about these kind of things around other females. Just ask her questions about how she felt when she was your age. Just remember that she's gone through what your going through. At first i got worried about vaginal discharge until one day I had a stomach ache and i went up stairs to the toilet and I typed in on the internet what to do if you have a stomach ache.I found this website called kids health and i read that its absolutely normal. I told my mum about it after 2 months because i was worried that it could have been something serious even though it was fine. I just bring up these conversations out of random with my mum when I'm on my own with her. My point is just talk about it to her when she's in a good mood or when ever your comfortable with talking about it.

October 30, 2013 at 5:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG! Now I'm NOT looking towards to my first period...

November 16, 2013 at 10:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Some people r lucky. I started my period for the 1st time @ church camp! It was really awkward around the boys, and I couldn't go canoeing, so everyone kept asking me why. I had to stay back in the dorms. Lucky me, @ other girls couldn't go either. :(

December 11, 2013 at 7:40 AM  
Anonymous livrocks said...

Ok so I am so worried now......... about my first period now... oh jeez.............. :3

December 12, 2013 at 2:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hope it doesn't happen at school

January 2, 2014 at 8:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

omg I hope mine doesn't happen at school like last year that happened to a girl during math :/

January 2, 2014 at 8:41 PM  
Anonymous Gbggggğggggvvgggvgghvhhhyÿyyhhhhhfdffgh said...

Um what do you mean by double periods

January 12, 2014 at 6:06 PM  
Anonymous Taylor said...

periods usually come once a month maybe she got twice in one month?

February 4, 2014 at 4:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

can i ever ask you for advice?

February 25, 2014 at 5:48 PM  
Anonymous Ellie said...

with your mum, I found that going on a walk is a really easy way to get to talk. With a younger brother in my family who is in everyones business, a walk with my mum and I is a really nice time and for me is a perfect time to tell her all my problems :D

March 2, 2014 at 10:00 PM  
Anonymous Dominique said...

I have had a big crush for a while. We used to go to the same school, but we both left to different schools. I see him during some summers, though. Anyways, we are pretty close friends and I don't want to tell him for fear of losing our friendship. I don't even want to date right now, but there is a chance that I'll never see him again. Also, last summer we went this summer camp sort of, we were on the bus and he sort of put hus arm around me. I'm sort of confused, he probably didn't mean anything. Or did he? I have no idea. Please help

May 10, 2014 at 1:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My advice is just to talk to your mom or a female that you trust.

August 7, 2014 at 1:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My advice is just to talk to your mom or a female that you trust.

August 7, 2014 at 1:41 PM  
Anonymous HelperH said...

1. I don't know anything really about periods.
2. My crush is far away too. But I have a new one now.
3. I was scared to ask my mom too. But I did, and now we're having nightly talks!

January 3, 2015 at 11:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok well i sort of had the same problem as Dominique
except I never get to see the guy any more and my mom wont let me get on any social media because she said im to young. I can still hear him laughing I can still se his spiked hair as we got out of lake I can still see him sitting bye me at the meals and when every possible I can still see him kissing me good bye on the bus ( not on the lips) I can still see him fighting of boys when they were being creeps and following me around. SIGH!!!!! I miss him so much !!! I need to talk to him !!!!!!!! Plz plz help.

May 13, 2015 at 10:02 AM  
Anonymous rkcrocks said...

My pastor died. I really miss him. I got over it, and I hope you will get over YOUR pastor leaving, even though dieing and leaving are not the same thing.

June 14, 2015 at 5:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I email my mom about everything even though I live next to her! (my bedroom, her bedroom!)

August 1, 2016 at 3:15 AM  

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