What if you look at inappropriate stuff online?

The Internet is big, big, big - as big as the world. So when you are traveling around online, you can go to lots of places and see lots of things. Not all of them are right for you and some might make you feel kind of yucky. We recently received the comment below from a very honest person:

Okay. I'm not sure how to put this, but I think I'm not a good person. I went on YouTube and watched videos that were not meant for kids. I was just curious and it was only like 2 clips, but my parents found out and got really upset. Now I feel really ashamed and feel like I'm the only one in the world who has done this. I'm sorry if this is a long, awkward post, but I really have no one else to confide in. Thanks for any support you might be able to give me. 
Anonymous
 
So first, we want to let Anonymous know that looking at inappropriate stuff does NOT make you a bad person. People are curious and it's normal to wonder about stuff you don't know much about - and have probably heard other people talking about. Anonymous is defnintely NOT the only person in the world who has ever done it. But that doesn't mean we recommend it. I would stay away from X-rated websites and YouTube videos of naked people.

If you have questions about growing up and sexuality, it's better to go to these sources:

  • A parent, or older sibling
  • A reliable website, like KidsHealth.org, which is run by doctors and other experts who will explain things in a respectful way, not a way that makes kids feel uncomfortable and awkward.
  • Books, such as What's Happening to Me? There's a What's Happening to Me? book for boys, too. 
The good news is that, as you get older, these topics will make more sense and you'll feel more comfortable. But right now, turn to reliable people, websites, and books to help you begin to understand them.

Think pink!
Jemma


 

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

your not bad

December 29, 2013 at 7:55 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Awwww you're not a bad person! Just stay away from things that are x-rated, its not for us girls! Don't try to grow up too fast, let's enjoy being tween/teen girls! Think about the exciting things of this time like lip gloss and bras and clothes! Leave all of the *other* stuff out for when you're older.

December 29, 2013 at 9:06 PM  
Anonymous PurpleRose said...

You are definitely not a bad person, try and stay away from adult content, and make sure you put your Google search as "Safe Search" so you don't see something inappropriate and have and be tempted to watch or read it. I have nothing else to say, actually, because Jemma already said everything I would have said!
Hope I helped!
-PurpleRose

December 30, 2013 at 9:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm sure there are plenty of other people who have done this so you are not alone. It definitely doesn't make you a bad person.

January 1, 2014 at 6:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The same thing happened to me recently. It doesn't make you a bad person, hon! You just need to be smart and use common sense before you hit play.
Use that big and beautiful brain! <3

January 1, 2014 at 11:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ur not alone. guilty also, but i stopped and it has made my life less shaky.

January 2, 2014 at 11:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

U r not a bad person just watch what u r gettin in to when u press play

January 2, 2014 at 6:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My friend also did this . Her mom found out when I was at her sleepover. Her mom just blocked the vids so she wouldnt get tempted. So just block them. Hoped I help and you and about 2 billion other people have done this you are a great person

January 2, 2014 at 10:51 PM  
Anonymous pubertyqanda said...

I have a sister who dis this

January 4, 2014 at 10:46 AM  
Anonymous ravenbunny123 said...

This happened to me i was just scrolling and then it happened . It was really weird so i told my sister . She helped me block and delete everything.

January 6, 2014 at 12:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you guys for your support! :)

January 6, 2014 at 11:45 PM  
Anonymous scared for life said...

i did that one time and i cant get the image out of my head i totaly know how you feel

January 8, 2014 at 2:31 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme! said...

your not a bad person. just stay away from inappropriate things. thinkpink girl!

January 8, 2014 at 2:41 PM  
Anonymous The-Girl-Who-Likes-Cheddar-Cheese said...

You're not a bad person jus' coz of that. Even if it's not appropriate, it'd practically be a miracle if you DIDN'T come across this stuff at some point or other...
Peace,
The-Girl-Who-Likes-Cheddar-Cheese

January 11, 2014 at 6:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

U are not a bad person

January 12, 2014 at 6:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u are not a bad person. I've done it once too. With the way schools are today, praise God if you didn't eventually find this stuff

January 16, 2014 at 6:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

everyone sees something bad once and a while! dont be upset!!!

January 19, 2014 at 2:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry ur not the first person that did that

January 20, 2014 at 10:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just block them so your not tempted

January 21, 2014 at 7:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

awww sweetie, please dont worry. you are growing up ang your body now faces hormonal changesso its very very normal in fact to see or have curiosity owards those things.. and please relax! never if parents know all these things, they were also once of ur age and they too faced these things.... just relax...

January 21, 2014 at 7:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

something is wrong in the world everywhere so dont be ashamed! everybody sees something bad, including me!

January 22, 2014 at 5:27 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

You're not a bad person. You know how I know? because you feel so bad about it. Also, you know, bad people are people who rob bank and stuff...

January 24, 2014 at 8:39 PM  
Anonymous Doglover said...

You're not a bad pearson! You were just curious! A lot of people do what you did and don't feel bad! You should be proud of yourself for saying "oh crap this is so wrong!" and then stopping! Here is some advice: I go to kidshealth.org and click on the peburity and growing up part. It makes me feel safe that I am not doing something like watching inappropriate stuff online in stead I am looking at a trusted website that my parents allow me to go to if I have questions they can't awnser!

January 26, 2014 at 10:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

your not a bad person everyone does this including me and to be honest i felt the same way you do/did but than my sister told me a story of how she did the same thing and that my eldest sister told her a story of how she did and how she felt so much better but just like the PLS i do nt recommend doing so

January 26, 2014 at 4:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very good.

January 27, 2014 at 2:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your not a bad person, I used to do that because the people at my school talk about all that stuff and more but I stopped .

January 30, 2014 at 1:00 PM  
Anonymous leaper said...

i know what this person means. well at least about this cite being the only place to confide in.

January 30, 2014 at 8:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know it was wrong but my friend told me to go on this website and i did i trusted her and as soon as i went on it there was things that i wasn't supposed to see and that is when i told my self not to go on it again but the next day i did i thought i was addicted to it so from that day i kept on trying not go on it but i can't help my self please help

February 1, 2014 at 12:52 PM  
Anonymous polkadots said...

I suggest telllling your parents or someone you trust. im mad at your friend for telling u about that website and if she does something like that again u should tell her parents. that is wrong and its not tattling if u do tell

February 14, 2014 at 4:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's okay, I felt that way too. It's happened to me.

February 14, 2014 at 7:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Everybody does it once ur not a bad person

February 15, 2014 at 11:36 PM  
Anonymous Rowing Star said...

Yea my friend showed me something inappropriate... it scarred me probably for life.
But anyways, Your not a bad person. Tons of people do it. Trust me I know.
At least you know now it's probably not the best thing to do.
It's all good.

bye! xx

February 17, 2014 at 3:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel guilty also about stuff but you're not a bad person I know people who do that

February 19, 2014 at 4:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its ok! I promise! I was very curious one day and looked up that stuff too! Don't worry your not alone!

March 1, 2014 at 12:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

youre not alone one time I looked up something too

March 8, 2014 at 5:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u definetly are not a bad person. Talk 2 some really good friend about the problem and try to think like a tween

March 10, 2014 at 2:03 PM  
Anonymous A Random Person said...

One day all my friends were talking about something at school so I looked it up to see what it was and I felt so sick to my stomach I then deleted all my history and For some reason, I felt like I needed to know more, so i looked up more stuff and then deleted THAT history. The moral of this story is you are not a bad person but don't look at that stuff. :)

March 11, 2014 at 9:25 PM  
Anonymous bluerocks1001 said...

The-Girl-Who-Likes-Cheddar-Cheese i like your name its cool sorry this has nothing to do with this blog. : (

March 13, 2014 at 12:32 AM  
Anonymous bluerocks1001 said...

your so not a bad person i almost did that but i thought through my head "what will happen if i do this" and i thought so yeah. next time something like that happens just think through your head and think ok and it will be fine. lots of people do it some i know in my class but whats diffrent is they dont stop it like they dont feel sorry for what there doing. any way hope i help
God bless you all-
bluerocks1001

March 13, 2014 at 12:37 AM  
Anonymous ama said...

dont worry. if you want to know about girl stuff try websites made for children. it was good that you confided.

April 9, 2014 at 2:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I moved to a new school my friends were always talking about things I didn't know about. So on a weekend I got up early and looked it up and I was ashamed I looked it up. But I kept looking it up. But I finally stopped. U r not alone and u r NOT a bad person.

April 11, 2014 at 6:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am sure 95% of the teens in the world look at stuff they shouldn't. that doesn't make you bad.

April 17, 2014 at 9:34 AM  
Anonymous KittyCatLover said...

I had something close happen to me, I got curious about The Hunger Games, a movie (that is obviously not meant for kids younger than 13) so I started looking stuff up about it, I didn't watch the movie, but I read a fanfiction based on it and played some simulation games. Well, mom found out and wasn't happy. She screamed at me to go 'watch something innocent'. I went and started watching a really old show called Leave it To Beaver, because that was the only thing I could figure she'd find innocent enough. Anyway, long story short, stay away from inappropriate stuff.

April 17, 2014 at 1:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes stay away from Mr inappropriate and Mrs sexuality online his horrid wife

April 24, 2014 at 4:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

how do I stop looking at inappropriate stuff

April 25, 2014 at 11:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Once I looked up you know "very inappropriate" stuff,and because I was curious I couldn't stop.But then I thought, my parents will find out.So what I did was just trying my best to stay away from it, and my parents have put on parental controls.To stop,just ask your parents to put on parental controls, so this will stop you from finding it.
Bye!!!

May 1, 2014 at 12:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sigh. I know that feeling. When I was just seven I was very intrested in ''bodies'' and ''making babies''. I looked some bad stuff on the enternet. My parents found out and were so ashamed and mad at me. After that I never-ever really even thought about "making babies". I am still ashamed of myself, but I am also knowing that I didn't know it was wrong and that self hatred is not the right path.

May 1, 2014 at 7:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To: the person who asked "how do i stop looking innaproppriate stuff". Think of how dissapointed your family would be if they found out what you were doing. There are safe websites and books for you to learn about sexuallity in.

May 1, 2014 at 7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its Perfectly normal! at some point everyone thinks about it and stuff. Dont think that you are the only one! Thera are LOTs and i mean lots of other people that havelooked up that stuff too.

May 9, 2014 at 1:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You're definitely not the only one! There are tons of people who do that (I myself was guilty) but I learned that it isn't right and I stopped. You won't even remember it in two years from now and even if you do, you shouldn't care!! Keep smiling! :)
XOXO
~Kitty

May 25, 2014 at 5:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I do sometimes but I don't mean to. Why we're people cussing in period stories/Tampon insertions

June 11, 2014 at 9:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell your parents

June 19, 2014 at 2:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I understand what it's like to be curious, you are NOT a bad person for it! It's only natural that as you get older and mature you begin to feel curious about "things" Pretty much everyone has done what you did at one point in there life, and it was probably just out of innocent curiosity. If you have questions about how things work you can always ask your parents or someone you trust :)

June 28, 2014 at 10:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

youre not a bad person u just wanted to now something and its ok just dont get on the intenet as much so ur not tempted as much ok thats much esier for me im always in trouble lol

July 17, 2014 at 8:07 PM  
Anonymous ZaraOverload said...

I've accedently looked up porn when I was little! I feel very ashamed now. D:

July 22, 2014 at 4:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its fine just stay away from things like this I definetly recommend the kidshealth because it explain everything in a nice way.

July 30, 2014 at 2:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i did stuff like that to look at good things about puberty on youtube a good book on puberty is
the care and keeping of you 1&2
you can find it at barnes & noble store and online

August 6, 2014 at 12:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My friend showed it to me years ago, and I recently saw more. It made me feel so gross!! Honestly, I felt sad for the people who were on the videos, because everyone can see their *bodies*, sometimes without them even knowing the video is online.

August 20, 2014 at 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

not a bad person but remember curiosity killed the cat!!!

August 28, 2014 at 6:09 AM  
Anonymous Catgal89 said...

I recently looked up some inappropriate stuff online and I told my mom and she was very disappointed in me cause it wasn't the first time. but I was curious. my mom then told me that I was not allowed to browse on my phone anymore but to use her computer. i was really ashamed,but don't worry. you're not bad at all.

August 29, 2014 at 8:44 AM  
Anonymous I wanna tell my parents but... said...

i have a question. So my parents think i shouldnt be into boys yet and i have a crush. And i think that they might not want me to be on this website bcz of that, but i need help and i cant get this kinda help anywhere else!!
What do I do?

December 16, 2014 at 7:51 PM  
Anonymous GrammerGirl said...

I've done this too, this blog made me feel a lot better.

December 16, 2014 at 9:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your not bad AT ALL! I have actually done this myself, but just steer clear of it in the future :)

December 19, 2014 at 2:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry about it, I've done it to.

December 20, 2014 at 1:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry, it's not bad to do something like that. Once I searched my name (it's not actually Anonymous) on Google Images and it came up with some really weird pictures I would rather not have seen. And my brother watches Minecraft videos, and clicks the links at the bottom accidentally. Sometimes, it has not-so-nice stuff. So don't worry! You're definitely not the only person who sees stuff like that.
Anonymous

December 21, 2014 at 5:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Not at all! It's probably not the best to see that stuff, but your not a bad person at all! Lots of kids do it, even little kids! -Shannon h

January 17, 2015 at 11:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tip: just clear the history. Think pink! -Shannon h

January 17, 2015 at 11:15 AM  
Anonymous Sweet Lover said...

i've done it before it's ok

April 22, 2015 at 12:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sometimes things like this happen to everyone, there's nothinng that makes you a bad person. I know everyone is a little curious about some things, even I was, but we should take advice from our parents on such things.
- Amanda Jones

May 13, 2015 at 10:34 AM  
Anonymous rrocks said...

I've found two "safe search" places. They are recommended by my teacher, and I think they work!
http://search.kidoos.org/
http://www.googlejunior.com/search

June 9, 2015 at 4:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It is better to use the internet with adult supervision,as it is very unpredictable and stuff.

June 19, 2015 at 4:09 AM  
Anonymous GamerSia said...

your totally not a bad person ive done this before and couldn't stop but eventually I did so try your best to not look at that stuff

July 15, 2015 at 9:51 PM  
Anonymous Rosalina said...

My friend showed me something I really don't like. she's my BFF, and I don't wanna hurt her feelings.
How can I tell her?

August 24, 2015 at 8:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel bad watching porn.

December 31, 2015 at 10:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry ive doneitbeformwithout being caught and i fel guilty i also thaught i was the only personmyage who did itim so relived that imnot alone

February 3, 2016 at 9:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just try an block it try not to think about it

February 28, 2016 at 10:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You are SO not a bad person. Forget about it. I've done it before-you feel really squirmy!

February 29, 2016 at 7:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

HELP!!!Im afraid I'll get my first period at school.

March 15, 2016 at 7:21 PM  
Anonymous The Mad Catter said...

I think my best friend doesn't like me anymore. What do i do?

March 16, 2016 at 11:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I looked up naked and it showed naked people but I meant the naked makeup will I get arrested or no

April 15, 2016 at 7:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my 7 year old brother found out about my period. What do I do?

April 18, 2016 at 12:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, as long as you report it and try to avoid stuff such as, Naked people, cussing words, inappropriate videos or picture, and more.

April 27, 2016 at 2:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

1. First anonymous, No you absolutely will not get arrested.
2. Second anonymous, Personally, this sort of thing isn't a problem for me, but if it is for you I'd recommend asking a parent or trusted adult - they know you and can help you find the right answer.

April 28, 2016 at 3:28 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am in the same situation LOL

June 30, 2016 at 4:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have been there don't worry just resist temptation and try to take the better choice don't worry it doesn't mean your a bad person, everyone gets tempted at one point in their life.

August 8, 2016 at 8:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Trust me it's not that bad I done it once and my parents found out and after a while they forgot about it. As long as you don't do it again it shows that u have learnt from your mistake

August 25, 2016 at 3:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it's ok i have did that too my mom got mad and after time she got over it . just give it time #helpingothers

September 6, 2016 at 11:09 PM  
Anonymous me said...

Guys I looked up some inappropriate stuff now I feel SUPER guilty. looking at this blog helped but I wanna confess to my parents to feel better but I dont know how to... HELP!!!

January 5, 2017 at 9:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry, you're DEFINITELY not alone. I've had the exact same experience, so relax! And also, being curious doesn't make you a bad person. People are meant to be curious. Without curiosity, we won't learn anything. So please remind yourself that you are a kind, caring human being, and not a bad person ; )

January 8, 2017 at 12:09 PM  
Anonymous Daisy001 said...

I looked up some inappropriate pictures and couldn't stop for a while. Then I felt SOSOOOSSO guilty and ashamed of myself even to the point of tears but I couldn't bring myself to tell my parents. I told by BFF, who I trust, and she said it's normal to do that, or at least be curious, and I also read this blog post and all the comments but I still feel really guilty, even though they both helped a lot. Please help, I'm struggling a ton right now!!!

January 21, 2017 at 10:21 PM  
Anonymous me (again) said...

Thanks so much Anonymous, it really helps that there's someone out there who listens and cares. For a while I would check back here just to see if my response was even published! It's great to know that there is also a response :) Thanks again to you and everyone else!!

January 22, 2017 at 10:26 PM  
Anonymous Daisy 001 said...

Help!! (read my above comment)

March 1, 2017 at 9:31 PM  
Anonymous Daisy001 said...

GUYS I REALLY NEED HELP. I'VE BEEN LOOKING AT INAPPROPRIATE PICTURES AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO STOP AND I FEEL REALLY GUILTY. I DON'T HAVE THE COURAGW TO TELL MY PARENTS. I NEED SOME COMFORTING WORDS OF ADVICE!!!!

March 18, 2017 at 10:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Daisy 001,
I read your comment and a lot of us girls have done that, mostly because we are curious, but in your case, I suggest going to an older girl/sister/cousin and telling them, and you will feel a lot better. I did the same thing once, and felt horrible. Remember, your not alone!!!

March 23, 2017 at 2:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi! I have to admit I have also been a little curious about these things and have looked at a few things I think I shouldn't have...Oops! I also felt bad but after I knew why these things are bad for me to look at, I understood a lot more and I felt a lot better. Me and my mom talked a little bit about it and now I don't feel tempted to look at inappropriate stuff. Hope this helps!

May 10, 2017 at 10:40 PM  

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