Take back the selfie!


We've all done it. Taken a selfie, or 42 of them, trying to make ourselves look absolutely stunning. To hide the size of our nose or minimize our hair that goes boing-boing! instead of sitting smoothly on our heads like we were in a shampoo ad. But here's the thing about selfies. They can be good if they help you appreciate the loveliness that is you. But not so good if you can only see the imperfections.

That's why this video is so interesting. The filmmaker challenged girls to take selfies without hiding what they feel are their worst features. Just to take a photo and let the real, natural girl shine through. Then they asked other people to look at, and comment on, the photos. Great news: People saw beautiful smiles and wildly wonderful hair.

Maybe try this selfie experiment with some friends. Take selfies and share them with each other. Find ways to comment in a positive way about what you see in your friends' photos. Note the features you like or the sparkle about them that makes you happy they are your friend. What if you could see all the ways that your friends find you beautiful? You might never look at yourself the same way again.
Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ah! Wonderful! I've seen DOVE presentations like this before, and they are all so inspiring!!!

January 29, 2014 at 6:55 PM  
Anonymous DogLover said...

I love taking selfies!

January 29, 2014 at 7:00 PM  
Anonymous leaper said...

this chalenge would be great for my friends. we loovvee taking selfies. one of my friends gets annoying thought she is always taking peoples phones or ipods and taking selfies

January 29, 2014 at 7:01 PM  
Anonymous leaper said...

first comment?? prob not i never am

January 29, 2014 at 7:02 PM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

This is a supercool vid and I think it'd stick out to most girls.... def caught my attention

January 29, 2014 at 8:14 PM  
Anonymous NatLovesOwls said...

I like it. True beauty comes from the hard work we do to improve our personality and kindness. Building our self esteem comes from serving others. Every girl is beautiful, either inside or out, but most importantly the inside. Stay beautiful!

January 29, 2014 at 10:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a crush on my brothers friend. I feel so weird. is this normal?? I need help!!

January 31, 2014 at 1:39 AM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

Anonymous crushes r normal and its ok to think hes cute

January 31, 2014 at 8:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a crush on my friend that I've known since 1st grade. Is that weird??

January 31, 2014 at 10:22 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

Anonymous on Jan. 31
It is normal to have a crush on your brother's friend. I did too, this last summer.

February 1, 2014 at 5:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I love this website :)

February 1, 2014 at 11:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks @coolgab1216

February 1, 2014 at 11:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my friends and i used to like to txt in a group message. but only used to. now the blame any group chat made they blame it on me. i was at my friends and she was txting somone and i was looking over her shoulder. (she was ok with this i swear) and the last few txts were saying things 'like i am going to block her' and she is sooo annoying i cant belive i was friends with her.

February 2, 2014 at 8:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@Pink-a-boo
Thanks. At least now I don't feel like a dork! Lol :)

February 3, 2014 at 6:38 AM  
Anonymous leaper said...

i have posted 4 or 5 comments and they haven't shown up. now i promise i didn't say any cus words or give away any info. why arnt they coming up!!!!

February 3, 2014 at 9:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

At Leapee
That's happened to me a few times. Many times it takes several days for the comments to come up on the website.

February 4, 2014 at 7:41 AM  
Anonymous leaper said...

im bored

February 5, 2014 at 10:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Leaper
Me 2 ;)

February 6, 2014 at 8:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi, i have a problem, i habe a LOT of discharge (no period) and i feel gross! I want to where panty liners but can blurt it out to my mom! i think my mom would be offended if i asked My sis! Should I try asking my mom and sis together?

February 6, 2014 at 4:27 PM  
Anonymous Ema said...

How do you deal with someone you know doesn’t like you, but you don’t know why?

February 6, 2014 at 6:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

okay i have never said this outloud but i feel like i need to say this. i used to have friends i was popular and them one of my best friends turned into a bully. i have no friends now all my friends believe rumors that are insane. they are terrialbe rumers.

February 6, 2014 at 8:32 PM  
Anonymous leaper said...

@ anonymous
try telling them together

February 6, 2014 at 8:33 PM  
Anonymous leaper said...

this modal agent stopped me in the mall. i really want to do it but people might make fun of me what should i do?

February 6, 2014 at 8:36 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

to Anonyomous with the discharge problem:
You could try that. I have a daily discharge and no period too. Personally, I just put toilet paper in my underpants, so discharge doesn't leave a mark on it. That's good enough for me, but if you don't want to do that, you can ask your mom and sis. that sounds like a good idea.

February 7, 2014 at 12:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for all your help! I'm going to tell my mom and sis after school! Thanks again!

February 7, 2014 at 12:49 PM  
Anonymous Rosebud said...

Hey there! Each time when I have my hair/ clothes in a different style, I take a round of selfies. Then I select the best ones, and put them in a folder called "ME". Then I go back and look at how pretty I am. It helps when I'm feeling down or icky during my period.

February 7, 2014 at 7:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Leaper. Why would people make phun of u for being a model.

February 7, 2014 at 8:50 PM  
Anonymous Cupcake_cutie said...

@leaper:
i know this sounds so cliche but follow your heart! dont let other people stop you from doing what you want!
good luck!
Think (your favorite colour)
Cupcake_cutie

February 12, 2014 at 5:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

At school, people are always saying that they are ugly, even though they are beautiful.

February 12, 2014 at 10:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I like your face, even if you don't.

February 12, 2014 at 10:06 PM  
Anonymous Natlovesowls said...

I can help answer any period questions! I have had my period for about a year. Always here to help.

February 15, 2014 at 9:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Natlovesowls and others
Ok I have a problem. I am 14 and still have irregular periods. I am frustrated with them too bc I have had my pd for 3 years since I was 11. What should I do.

February 18, 2014 at 2:54 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

Jemma?
It seems like no comments are being posted onto this topic. None have showed up for 4 days.
Also, I posted a comment that might've had something you didn't like in it, so it makes sense if it didn't get posted because of that. But then, I decided that since it wasn't showing up, I would take a comment that I commented on a different post, because it could be used to answer this question too. So, I copy-pasted that comment (it was already accepted as a comment), and tried to comment it. Now it still hasn't shown up. Could you please let my comment through? Please?

February 22, 2014 at 4:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Beauty is accepting you are not perfect and nobody is. I remember I looked in a mirror for 3 min after someone told me I'm fat and I then looked in the mirror and realized I wasn't and saw all my good qualities inside out.

February 23, 2014 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

exactly nobody is perfect, not even me,
you aren't left out
people say perfection=beauty

February 25, 2014 at 4:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

isn't this blog a nice place to communicate?

February 25, 2014 at 4:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

there are actually other people who have a crush on a
freind!
sorry if i spelled freind wrong! not a good speller

February 25, 2014 at 4:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am sorry to say this but i think it is time for you to
break up with your freind if she bully is you and you
don't want that, no one wants a friend that is a bully,
find another person you feel is a good freind, make new freinds and see if they can help, tell a trusted adult if that person continues to bull you!,
I hope it all helps and don't let bad rumors about you spread, glad if i helped

February 25, 2014 at 6:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey anonymous, why don't you talk to your parents
about your best freind bullying and the rumors, you can also talk to your counselor, try that, tell the teachers that person is bullying you

February 25, 2014 at 6:40 PM  
Anonymous love said...

i don't get it, who is a selfie?

February 25, 2014 at 8:03 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

Love
A selfie is a picture someone takes of themself

February 26, 2014 at 12:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't think ur mom will be ofended I ask my mom dozens of times for panty liners and she always says "ok" but if ur sis is a teen u can come with her to a store or the mall and buy girl stuff or just ask her to buy u some.

February 28, 2014 at 11:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I saw the video I realized I souldn't be afraid to take a selfie of my self because of what I thought people would think about me, it's not like the whole world is going to stop just to laugh at a picture of me.

March 1, 2014 at 10:33 PM  
Anonymous bluerocks1001 said...

pretty cool. im kinda dont like that i have a lot of freckles and my hair is pretty short it dosent grow as fast as other girls hair and i have a little bit more wieght then the other girls but my mom and dad are really nice to me. my dad said that hes a little worried for when i srat getting bfs but i told him if they try anything that i can just say that im awsome at trap shoting (shooting moving targets) and my dad taught me.

March 4, 2014 at 3:44 PM  
Anonymous Del6 said...

My mom says that pretty doesn't last, and that there have been lots of women that people thought were very beautiful because of who they were on the inside. A loving heart makes you pretty, not your hair. Being good looking is just luck, and opinion, being a good person is something you can work towards, and something that lasts forever.

March 8, 2014 at 1:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i took a selfie picture of myself many time, is that wrong?

March 11, 2014 at 6:15 PM  
Anonymous pink-a-boo said...

Anonymous on March 11
No, why would it be wrong?

March 13, 2014 at 10:41 PM  
Anonymous SW said...

Wow, this vidieo has made me realise that there is nothing wrong with me and I can be who I want to be and have no doubt about it because I'm beautiful just the way i am am. No doubt about it!
During the first couple of weeks of year 6, I was really insecure with the way I was because I felt I was too skiny to fit into anything at all and I slowly started to lose my smile and my self-confidence. But now I know it was all for nothing because I am beautiful no matter what people say.
SW

March 14, 2014 at 12:28 PM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

No. Selfies r a natural part of teen life as long as you love yourself inside and out.
Annonymous march 11

March 14, 2014 at 10:25 PM  
Anonymous Love said...

pink-a-boo
Thank you so much for explaining to me what a selfie
is, it helped, i understood.
Sorry i am sending this late, but i just now looked
at your answer! thanks again! now i know what it is
since you told me what it is

March 17, 2014 at 7:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Selfies are AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:) my bf says im beautiful but i dont think im am... Like she is BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

March 27, 2014 at 2:00 PM  
Anonymous Teengirl said...

Hey, could any of you help me?
I have a problem with 3 of my friends, the thing is there is like a constant war between us. i try my hardest to sort things out 'cos i'm the oldest/most mature but nothing works. help? for more details just ask. btw we are in year six/sixth grade.

April 6, 2014 at 5:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To be perfectly honest, when I take selfies I only use a filter to trap the light and make my skin less dark, its not a huge deal to me I only edit my pictures to make collages and when im not I go all natural

April 12, 2014 at 5:13 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I loved this video! It made me feel really good about my self and helped to see my features in a positive light. Thanks PLS for posting it!
XOXO
~Kitty

April 15, 2014 at 10:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I loved this video! It really showed how real beauty is in everyone. Many people are obsessed with there looks which makes unhappy and not love their life, this is naming the social media aspect.
People who are stuck in the life of "I Am NOT Beautiful" can't find the true and totally REAL beauty in them.
Thank you, PLS, for posting this amazing video every person in the world should see!!

May 11, 2014 at 7:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

In my personal opinion, people are missing the total point in this project. Even though they are saying that everyone has beautiful qualities, they are saying that outward beauty matters. They should focus on inner beauty rather than telling girls outward beauty is a quality that should be cared about.

June 1, 2014 at 7:45 PM  
Anonymous guglilicious said...

I loved the video! It really helped me feel good about myself and my looks. I'm sure it helped a lot of other girls recognise how beautiful they are without selfies

June 5, 2014 at 3:25 PM  
Anonymous Juliet said...

What i do is i take about 10-20 selfies, all at different angles and positions and i pick ONE decent one from those 20 and decide to post that. I delete the rest. I've come to realize that no one needs to do that. Everyone is beautiful just the way they are in any picture, at any angle. Your weight or size or teeth or hair or scars don't define YOU. Because if you stay true to yourself no one can bring you down. No matter what they do or say don't let anyone tell you what to be. You're all beautiful and gorgeous and perfect just the way you are! (:

June 26, 2014 at 6:46 PM  
Anonymous Catgal89 said...

I don't post my selfies mainly because I take them with my camera.

July 7, 2014 at 8:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Loved it! Being beautiful isn't about looks! I totally agree!!! :-)

July 14, 2014 at 11:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thats so funny. Thats what my friend does

July 27, 2014 at 8:36 AM  
Anonymous Rkc said...

I take selfies but i do not worry about my looks

August 10, 2014 at 1:50 PM  
Anonymous LoveStruck said...

i do... :(
also I have a crush on my bros friend and im scared bcz if my bro finds out he might tell my crush!!! Agh!!

December 18, 2014 at 8:44 PM  
Anonymous LoveStruck said...

is this website outdated or sumthing? The very latest comment was in SEPTEMBER. It's DECEMBER NOW. Is there anyone left here? Did the website shut down or sumthing?

December 18, 2014 at 9:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this was really uplifting as after I watched this I realized that I always try to hide a big freckle on my cheek.

December 27, 2014 at 11:23 PM  
Anonymous Tiffany said...

I don't take much selfies but when I do,I go insane on editing.

January 2, 2015 at 3:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

LEMME TAKE A SELFIE!!!!!!LOL
Omg -shannon h

January 17, 2015 at 2:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You let it go...haha it makes let it go play in my head!lol! There's a girl named Alyssa who is a tag along to our group. She was just too...weird. She liked monster high and she is unpopular. Even teachers have to like assign buddies with her because nobody likes Her
-Shannon h

January 17, 2015 at 2:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Me 2 in first grade I wad sassy and bffs with a sassy girl. Now she's just sassy and doesn't make good decisions. Like throwing snowballs when we're not supposed to. -Shannon h

January 17, 2015 at 2:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok thanks I haven't had it yet but when it comes, I'm too scared to tell my parents. What will I do? Shannon h.

January 17, 2015 at 2:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That's good. I used to want to be fatter because people called me like a toothpick or bacon. I didn't like being called skinny. Now I don't care what people think.
-Shannon h

January 17, 2015 at 2:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I <3 talking and communicating on blogs
-Shannon h

January 17, 2015 at 2:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ik right? I used to hate being called a toothpick. My mom has to hem my pants so they fit. I can only fit into super skinny, or else too big and baggy. -Shannon h
It feels good to have someone else who's really skinny

January 17, 2015 at 2:44 AM  
Anonymous alienxgirl72459831 said...

Out of all the stuff on this blog this one is my favorite

April 11, 2015 at 7:53 PM  
Anonymous Happy owl said...

I love this blog! #selfiestick

June 8, 2015 at 6:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good experince for the girls and their moms ; )

July 27, 2015 at 2:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good advice

July 27, 2015 at 2:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

soooooooo true, i am the way i should be everyday all the time!!!
-Kayla

July 1, 2016 at 3:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i do not have to do anything to look or act right!! :P
-Kayla

July 2, 2016 at 3:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

alienxgirl72459831 is totaly right!!!
-Kayla

July 2, 2016 at 3:35 PM  
Anonymous PopRocks said...

I don't take selfies much...

July 8, 2016 at 9:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

me neither poprocks, i do not have any electronics (except for this computer)
-Kayla

July 21, 2016 at 4:01 PM  

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