New girl, new school: Your advice needed!

Were you ever the new girl at school? It takes a bit of bravery to start fresh. What's your best advice for Troubled?

Dear PLS, 
Help!!!! I dont have any friends at my new school and I am worried I wont make any:(  

This is a dramatic situation. Just think of the books, movies, and shows that start out with a new girl in a new place. But it's also a common situation. Your family moves, or maybe it's just that you finished elementary school and now must go to a new school for the exit grade. So Troubled, you are NOT alone. My advice is to prepare ahead. Here are some ways to do that:

Ask your parents if you can tour the school ahead of time. Then you will feel a little more familiar with things. Even better if you can do a tour with other kids who are also new. Ask the tour guide if he or she can connect you to other new students on Day 1. Also ask for a list of sports, clubs, and other

Get your parents' help in meeting kids in your neighborhood that go to that school. 

Join activities NOW in your community as a way of meeting new people.

Come up with something simple you can say when you meet a new person. You might say, "Hi, my name is A. I'm new this year."  Or something like that.

Remember that there are lots of kind, friendly people out there. You just need to find them. Here's a post from a while ago all about being the new girl and how to help. Good luck!

What's it like to be the new girl?


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't stress about making friends, they should naturally be made. If you keep worrying about it, then all you'll ever be doing is worrying about making friends when you could be having fun. Don't miss out on things from stressing. Just try to talk to people and ask them things about the school to help start a conversation. Try to find things you have in common with others. Good luck!

June 22, 2016 at 12:12 AM  
Anonymous Musicianatheart said...

OMG! A new post! I have been waiting for like a year! Thanks so much! Will there be regular posts now? I hope so!
As for the post, maybe ask if you can hangout or play with some kids that sound nice? Worst case scenario is that they'll recommend someone else to you! Good luck!

June 24, 2016 at 5:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Off topic- when is the next post going to be? I'm so excited the blog is back!

June 24, 2016 at 8:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't worry about making new friends i know you've probably been told this many times but it works just be yourself your real friends are the ones who like you for you. try a after school activity to meet new people its how i meet some of my best friends

June 30, 2016 at 12:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Find some nice people to hang around and if they ignore you then find new people to be friends with

June 30, 2016 at 1:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG,im so nervous too! What if i dont know where the bathroom is?!! What if my teacher is mean?

July 3, 2016 at 12:26 PM  
Anonymous Cats Forever! said...

I'm going to middle school next year and I was SO worried. This helped me a lot. Thanks PLS!

July 6, 2016 at 8:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Help! I need to know about puberty and periods and those things, but when I ask my parents or anyone, they just say" you're not old enough to know about puberty." And I'm 11 and going through puberty right now! I'm not allowed to hear about periods or crushes or anything like that on TV and as soon as something about liking someone comes on, they change the channel! I seriously need answers and they can't keep doing this!

July 12, 2016 at 3:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Anonymous,
Even if your parents don't tell you about puberty and periods, there always is the Internet! Try to search up things like that on the Internet, and trust me, you will get answers! And don't worry about crushes and things like that, because pretty soon your friends and everyone in the school will talk about them, even the teachers! Also, your mom or some female family member probably has a packet of pads, and I would try to find them and take one or two of them just in case. However, you should probably ask your mom before doing this. And when you actually get your period, and you tell your mom about it, she will have to give you some pads. You can also talk to the nurse or guidance counselor about this when you get into school. You are NOT too young to know about these things. In my school,they showed us a video about puberty and periods and stuff when we were in 5th grade. Some of the people who saw that video were only ten at the time! (I was too!) I am 11 also, and I hope you figure this out!
P.S- It would be nice if you responded to me so I know you got the message! :)
Lots of Love,

July 15, 2016 at 2:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Also when I ask, I get banned from ALL devices for like a month! We don't have a puberty education programme at my school either. I've tried to hint to them that I am going through it, but they say stop doing that and I get banned again.

(I'm Curious from before)

July 16, 2016 at 7:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey, is the blog back now? #itsbeensolong! Thanks PLS! You girls have helped me through the toughest parts of puberty! I can't think of how I would survive without your amazing blog and kind help. Jemma, I am so grateful that you take time out of your day to help us young girls with our puberty problems. Thank you so much!

I wrote a poem for the PLS:

Pink Locker Society
Giver of loving help
Taker of uncontrollable problems
Giver of a wonderful community
Taker of sad days spent alone
Giver of answers to life's problems
Taker of curiosity
Giver of kind companions to confide in
Taker of confusion

Thank you Jemma!

July 20, 2016 at 10:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi, it's Curious again. Just a question about your answer.. If I take my mums pads( which I have done) where should I hide them? My parents always go through every room in the house and I don't have anything I can lock. Mum goes through my school bag too(for notices and stuff) Where can I hide this stuff? Also, is it ok if I try on one of my mums old bras to see if it fits? I really want to do this so I can see what it feels like to wear a bra. Thanks,
From Curious

July 20, 2016 at 10:17 PM  
Blogger Jemma said...

So sweet! Thank you!

July 20, 2016 at 10:57 PM  
Anonymous Chery said...

Your welcome!

July 21, 2016 at 4:29 PM  
Anonymous Chery said...

When's the next post coming up? I can't wait to see it?

July 21, 2016 at 4:33 PM  
Anonymous Jacqueline said...


July 22, 2016 at 4:21 AM  
Anonymous Katie said...

I was in the same situation. Just be yourself and you will make lots of friends soon.

July 31, 2016 at 12:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Help! My mum says the Pls is inappropriate but it has helped me a lot and I love it! I'm not allowed on but I'm doing it secretly!

August 4, 2016 at 4:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry about making friends they will come naturally!...and you can try to hang around with some girls who you think are kind don't try to make friends with the CCP's (cool, cute, popular) at first.....and just act cool and be kind than everybody will start liking you and will be your might yourself turn out to be a CCP afterwards!!! All the best!

August 7, 2016 at 5:29 AM  
Anonymous Galaxy Girl said...

If you want to make friends see if there is anyone who likes the same things as you! I was the new girl too so i know how you feel! when your doing a project or are waiting for your parents try to make small talk or just say Hi and youll start talking!! hope this helped! Have a amazing day!

August 24, 2016 at 3:17 AM  
Anonymous happy panda said...

Its tough but you will meet people

September 8, 2016 at 4:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The worst thing to do is worry. Smile at people and give them compliments, that way people will realise how nice you are. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!

December 14, 2016 at 11:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maybe you can just try to get to know the girl in front of you in class that's what I did.

December 30, 2016 at 3:56 AM  
Anonymous Emma said...

I just want my period so bad! What are some signs so I can tell when its coming?

January 8, 2017 at 1:33 PM  
Anonymous Archer25 said...

don't worry, just be cool and u will be making millions of friends. if someones teasing you then just ignore and asome kind person who had the same feelings will want 2 be ur friend. ROCK ON!!!!! BE THE LUCKY PERSON TONIGHT!!!! :D

February 12, 2017 at 1:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry about not making friends because the right people will come

March 9, 2017 at 7:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok, I am a new girl at my school. I am pretty shy,
and here's a tip: I first found a girl that looks pretty nice, I asked if she want to play with me. If yes, then ask her if she want 2 be ur friend, if no, find another girl and start over.

May 6, 2017 at 8:59 PM  
Anonymous Unikitty10 said...

act cool and be nice

May 9, 2017 at 4:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


May 10, 2017 at 7:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi, I was the new girl in my school. I moved this year. I was in your same situation and I tried to be someone I wasn't. Just be yourself and if no one likes you for who you are then don't waste your time with them, you are great just as you are.

June 6, 2017 at 9:48 AM  
Anonymous Vivimouse9 said...

I moved from England to a different country and I was nervous about making new friends too! Here's my advice... always be yourself. If people don't like you for who you are then they're not worth having as a close friend. Don't worry because if you just show your generally awesome self then you'll have loads of new friends!

June 14, 2017 at 8:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Be yourself

June 14, 2017 at 8:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma, I have a problem. My friends tease me because I don't have a boyfriend or crushes. But I do have a crush. It's a crush on a girl though, and I've never told them about it. I'm nervous that they won't like me anymore or think I'm weird. Please help!

June 21, 2017 at 2:14 PM  
Anonymous Minecraftkitty said...

Same for me!but (even though none of my elementary school friends are all in another school)theres still plenty of chances that youll find great friends in a new school right!

July 3, 2017 at 9:26 AM  
Anonymous Erin said...

I was once the new girl and I found it really hard the first day or 2, but I started making friends really soon, honest I did! And you probably will make friends really soon too. Just show who you really are, don't pretend to be somebody you're not. Pretending won't let anybody know what you're really like,so it really doesn't help. Try to be nice friendly, and don't stand in a corner all alone, cause you don't make friends that way! If you get near to somebody who looks quite friendly, just ask them if they want to do something with you. If that person doesn't want to, try with another friendly-looking face. You're bound to make a friend! good luck!

July 9, 2017 at 12:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why don't you branch out? It won't hurt- all you have to do is say hi!

July 11, 2017 at 5:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's okay...eventually, you won't be the new girl!

August 8, 2017 at 1:30 PM  
Anonymous lex said...

don't worry you will be the most coolest girl at school and you will have lots of friends your are awsome

November 7, 2017 at 6:32 PM  

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